Ways To Make A Married Man Leave His Wife For You Best Advise

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I will show you some ways to make a married man leave his wife for you. This advice is from other women with the same expirience having a relationship with a man who already has a wife. These are some expiriences women are having with married men
25p-6461-cheating-wife.jpgWell, if you are reading my post, most likely you are in love with some married guy.. That’s not good. You are in a very difficult situation. Most married guys won’t leave their wife because they are scared to hurt their feelings. It’s especially true if the guy already has kids with her. If they have children, it’s going to be very difficult for him to leave her for you. My advice to you is to just forget about him, leave him alone so he can continue his life with his wife because you are just wasting your time and energy with this dude. Seriously.

There are many ways you can make him leave his wife. The best way would be that (if he really loves you), he will be willing to sacrifice all for you and get a divorce and marry you.. I bet that’s what you want don’t you..? We all want that, but we are just fooling ourselves. Think about this for a minute. Lets say that everything works out between you and him, you guys get married. Do you know what Karma is? Yup,, he'll do the same thing to you, and instead of you being the mistress, you will be the wife who is being cheated on. So stop this nonsense and let him go. Its just going to hurt you even more later. Put yourself in the wife's shoes, how would you feel if you were the wife?

anyways, I am telling you this from experience.. this is what happened to me.

I went out with this guy for almost 5 years.. At first it started as a friendship, but as we got to know each other, My respect and admiration was increased by his strong and brave character. I love smart guys and he was all that I wanted in a man, BUT HE WAS OLDER THAN I. I was very disappointed when he told me he was already married. But I didn’t care much because I knew we were just friends. - That’s all.

So one day, we went to dinner together. Just as friends... That was a mistake! He was so romantic and made me feel really special... :) I really needed someone to treat me like that. All the jerks I had met before were immature. But he was so passionate and romantic. After time, I started to realize I was falling in love with him. I could not stop my heart from falling in love. I asked him not to ask me out anymore, but he keept insisting. hahaha. That’s what I love about him too. He doesn’t give up so easy. I like a man that gets what he wants..

So anywayz, we continued to go out and sleep together. Until after two years, I started to wonder where we were going. I asked him where we are headed. He said he was confused and did not know. But he was very happy with me. Another year passed by and nothing. We kept sneaking out after work and go places together. Even to motels.. By now, I was starting to feel cheap. I felt he only wanted to sleep with me. But I didn’t tell him because I didn’t want to pressure him and lose him.

After 4 years, (I know. im so stupid) I confronted him and told him that I cannot continue like this. So we stopped seeing each other.. I missed him so much. :( I kept thinking about him all the time and I even cried for him every night. Then all of the sudden he calls me and we started the whole thing again.. and yet again, I started to feel used.. This time he said he was thinking about how he would get out of his marriage so he can get marry to me. He kept giving hope, and as a fool, I felt for it. He kept giving me excuse after excuse. He tells me about his wife, she is sick and she is lonely, she doesn’t have her parents and it’s hard for him to leave her.

I woke up one morning and decided I wasn't going to be the second plate for him no more. I had to put a stop to it. I came to realize that he was not going to give up his marriage for me. So I kept giving him excuses after excuse that I could not meet with him.

In my mind, I kept wondering some ways how I can make him my husband. these are Some ideas I came up with...

1. The obvious one was to get pregnant with him. - That is the worst thing you can do. You will just make another life more miserable, so don’t do it

2. Another idea I had was to run away with him - I asked him and he said no


3. Ok, I said to myself, well, if I can't have him, then no one will. I was ready to confront him at his house. I was going to go to his house and talk to him while his wife was at home. I knew that if his wife found out about us, she was going to divorce him.. So I did. Oh boy, it was a big mistake. When the wife found out about it. She cried and cried. I felt so horrible. He screamed at me and told me to go away. My heart was so broken. I had never felt so disappointed. I went home crying and I vowed never to see him again.


It’s been 6 years now since that happened to me. And now that I have time to reflect on my experience I realize that there are more women in my situation.

So my advice to you my dear, if you are involved with a married man, you are making a big mistake. He will not leave his wife for you. Unless he is already divorce and done with his wife, he will continue to be with her and you will just be another of his sides.. Don’t fall in this trap

I know it’s not what you want to hear. You probably want some magic way to make him be with you all the time. But unfortunately there is none. Let him go. If he is meant for you, he will come to you. But don’t accept him if he is still married. Otherwise, you will fall into the same hole I was and you will just be wasting your time.

I know its going to hurt at the beginning when you break it up. But trust me. After one month after you don’t see him, you will start to feel better and you are going to wondered how you could ever fall into something like this. When you are in love and it hurts, the worst thing you can do is to listen to music. Don’t listen to songs at all, because they will just remind you of him. So don’t listen to music for a whole month. And you will see, it works.

I hope my experience has helped you. If you are going through already, please, tell me your story. I would like to learn from you so we can all help other girls out there who might be in the same situation and they can learn from us

Thanks to all the women who have replied. Special thanks to Pam. Read Pam's comments below, she will open your eyes!

Please tell me your situation, i would like to learn from you.

Thanks.
Flor
i've been seeing this married man for a year. i love him more than i have love anyone including my ex husband of 19 years. i got pregnant in august he was not very happy but non the less he became happy after i told him i was having my baby and he could leave he didn't wanted to leave he stay with me. at 5 months pregnant we lost our baby girl it was very hard for both of us. it is still hard. he served his wife with the divorce papers and she put the puzzle together. she called me and ask me to leave her husband that he is married and that they have the children. i told him what do you want to do. i'm willing to leave if that's what you want and he said no he wants to stay with me forever. apparently his wife cheated on him and after that their marriage starting breaking up. i came into the picture two years later. i told her talk to him not to me. i felt very uneasy but i love this man. and he says we are a couple and that's how it going to be. this is my story
bear'sbabygirl
Try giving 17 years of your life believen that he is going to leave his wife. Defending your relationship to everyone you know. Defending it to yourself. Loving him so much that you feel like your heart is being ripped out, when you realize you can no longer lie to yourself. As much as he may love me, and as much as he may want to leave her, it is never going to happen. SO then I am forced to desided if I can continue to grab every second we can find and be okay with that or rip my heart out of my chest and crush it beyone repair, and end things. I realize it may sound like I am going over board with the whole "rip my heart out of my chest and crush it beyone repair" comment, but he is the ONLY man I have ever loved. He is my world and I would and have given my life for him. I am so torn and confused and lost...
Taya
I never thought I would look for advices on the Internet but I really need a couple because I'm in the worst situation and I'm only 21and he's 36 years old.I can kinda relate but the I'm in love with is engage.When we first met he told me he still live at home with somebody and that he's was in the process of moving out so I said find ok( That's was a big mistake)I didn't really think on that because I thought we was just gonna be friends and that it was gonna be all about love.Well we started hanging out,he's was so romantic,honest nice,he even briught his kids around me and he was fun to be around.We was together all day everyday.he got me a apartment and furnish my whole apartment out and he didn't even know me like that.I knew I had feelings for him once the lady got Incontact with me over FB saying they were engage and it hurted my soul to see pictures of them together like I was upset so I confronted him about the situation and he said she just still going through it don't worry abt her and he even showed me the ring so I left it alone.then everything stated going down the hill.I guest when me and him was going through it he got back with her and I just recently found out that they are really engage.He still calls me and I keep telling him to not call me cause I can't talk to him when I know for sure your engage.Im hurt on so many ways caus I really was looking at the future for us.I thought one day maybe hell move out n we can find a home together .I was a fool and now my heart is crush.I will never thought I will experience this at a young age.And for some odd reason I still believe that one day he'll leave and come be with me.
Straight
I understand love, passion, getting caught up, romance and all of that, I love it just as much as the next woman, but I have had my heart broken just enough that I have come to the realization that real men do not cheat on their wives. The kind of man that you should want in your life would have courage and respect enough for himself and his family to end a bad marriage, and move on if that's what he wants to do. I see a common theme to every painful response, every comment begging for advice, all the confusion, and chaose in so many of your lives, you are waiting on this man to choose you first, not realizing that he can never do that because he already chose his wife first, that's why he chose her, and that's why even though he tells you all the right things to make you stay with him, he stays with her. Get out while you can!!
laughingATALLtheseDUMBfre
this is, by far the smartest comment/reply on this thread. females... i am a happily married woman. do you all as women really think that you deserve to be loved and wifed by any man? think about it for a minute... you want a married man. this man has a family. little innocent children are involved. you want exactly what the wife already has but you're destroying the very thing you want. so as women, the way that you ho%s are helping tear apart a family, do you honestly believe you deserve a husband and family of your own? respect the process and wait to build your home with an available man from the ground up. not willing to put in that kind of ground work? hmm? then you were never wife material to begin with and should stop dating cold turkey and work on all those feelings of needing to be loved to the point that the man has to give up his whole life or destroy it just to give you a sense of security or worth... man this was too easy to rip a new one in y'all... lol. much love and
Pam
IT'S NOT WORTH IT! I've had a relationship with a married man for over a year. I admit it was a memorable experience, we had beautiful and exciting moments together. But you know what, I LOVE MYSELF and I can't allow him to treat me like an option because I believe that I deserve to be someone's priority! I told him that I can't continue being his mistress anymore and we should get back to being good friends..platon friends. Ladies, hear this... if a married man truly loves you, he will leave his wife for you. He will do anything to have you. He will spend the rest of his life with you. And he will respect you as a woman. Well now, this married man and I are still friends. If he loves me and wants me, then he has to prove it first. I DESERVE TO BE NUMBER ONE!
Emma
totally agree with Pam. i am also in current situation and Long Distance Relationship. my bf is now tying for separation and not having love with his wife (he said his ex) as we both agree to have faith and loyal each other. so he did not have love with her about 8 months and last week he got drunk and she was forcing to have love. Now he said he felt guilty about it. they are together for 40 years but his wife was the one who started cheated on him with having affair with his best friends and she still cannot cum with my bf. within 40 years of marriage life she only cum once with my boyfriend. So why she blamed now to my boyfriend (her husband) about our affair?
Kate
I third that Pam! Every woman deserves to be Number 1 in a mans life and you should NEVER settle for less!!!! Walk away and if he truly loves you he will find a way to be with you, only you!

Break the chains and put yourselves first for a change!
Kat
If the guys has kids, I don't care how much he loves you . . . If he is a stand up decent guy and a good father . . . HE WILL NOT LEAVE for you, the marriage is secondary in most cases. In many instances its more about the kids than the wife, you can't fault them for that can you ? So what's a girl to do, make him choose ? It won't be you honey, I guarantee that.
John
there's no need to get him to leave her...just be his concubine (second wife); let him know you understand he's married, and you're perfectly fine with being his #2. that you'll never give him any trouble but just want to be with him, and be his. the catch is, however, that you really have to mean this, not just try to replace his wife (forget jealousy, it isn't necessary); it is indeed morally upright for a man to have more than one mate.
spell out clearly how you understand this, and he'll never leave you.
the whole world has always been polygnous...we copy roman pagan ideas, and the 1st century jews, as they were hypocrites about it, by taking one wife, then divorcing her to get another, causing a constant stream of heart/homebreaks. you both need an understanding; it is now to be understood that you have a husband, not a boyfriend. so you both actually need to see this clearly, in some way or fashion. this means you count yourself taken, and not available for the attention
Nelly
it's easy to say for you cause you men enjoy that situation of having two women. did you think for a second about the women especially the one you want to call #2?
Rosa
hello. i have dated a married man for 1 and 5 months. he is been married for 25 years, but his wife did not give him any kids because she was married before and had two kids of her own and cannot have kids any more. when i first met him, he asked me if i had any kids, and i said no. he started dating me and i noticed that he wanted to get me pregnant. soon, i ended up pregnant it is a boy he is 5 months old. when the baby turned 2 months old, i told his wife that he cheated on her and that we have a baby together. soon after, i told him to leave his wife, and he told no. he refuses to leave her and basically he does not want anything with me, and i don't think he wants anything with the baby either. he keeps telling that he loves his wife, and told me to go away with the baby.

any comments
thanks .
Andrea
boyfriend lied. now i love him. he is carrier with 3 kids
Lissa
4 years ago this man and i were together and we broke up over something # silly #. i was so angry at him i just quit talking to him for over a year (we also work together). he is now engaged and has a 1yo with another woman. about a month ago he wanted to come over to watch movies and just get back to being friends. i told him it was a bad idea from the start. and i was right we ended up being together and we didn't want to let each other go the next morning. he has stopped over frequently to "be with me" a few times since then. he would talk and text all day every day until she noticed and was getting snoopy. he has told me the only reason he hasn't left this woman is because of his daughter. he says he is in love with me and i am madly in love with him as well. about a week ago now i text him and said i couldn't do this anymore and he needed to figure things out on his own. am i # silly # to think that he will ever leave her even though they aren't married yet? i'm hurt and so em
CATEYES
AM ALSO IN THIS POSITION.. HIS BEEN WITH HIS FIANCE FOR 16 YEARS AND NOW SHES PREGNANT BOUT TO HAVE HER FIRST BABY EVEN THO I HAVE CHILDREN ON MY OWN AM HEART BROKEN BEAUSE I REALIZE THAT AM DEEPLY INLUV WITH THIS MAN, HIS TWICE MY AGE AND HIS WONDERFUL HIS ALL I WANT IN A MAN..I TRIED SO MANY TIMES TO LET HIM GO BUT HE TELLS ME HIS IN LOVE WITH ME AND HE LOVES HER AND THAT HE CAN LEAVE HER NOW THAT SHES PREGNANT...I KNOW HIS NOT WILLING TO SACRIFIES EVERYTHING FOR ME FOR OUR LOVE IAM FOOLING MY SELF MY AM GETTING STRONGER EMOTIONALLY I WILL LET GO I WILL LET GO OF HIM.. IS SO HARD SO HARD BECAUSE FOR THE FIRST TIME IN MY LIFE I FEEL LIKE I FOUND A SOUL MATE BUT THE REALITY IS HIS SOME ELSE SOUL MATE.. FOR THE FIRST TIME IN MY LIFE AM TRULY INLUV BUT I PRAY TO GOD EVERYDAY TO MAKE MY MIND HEART AND SOUL STRONG SO I CAN MOVE ON WITH MY LIFE.. I CANT SEE THE MAN I LUV MARRING SOME ELSE THE WORST PART IS THAT I KNOW HIS FIANCE AND SHES A GREAT WOMAN,IT HURTS EVEN MORE TO KNOW THAT YOU KNOW IF U LET GO HIS STILL WILL BE HAPPY..WELL LADIES I KEEP PRAYIN EVERYDAY TO JESUS TO HELP ME INTHIS ROAD AM ON..GOD BLESS YOU ALL..AND I HOPE I MAKE THE RIGHT DESITION..
LovingMyselfMore
a week ago i just broke up with married man. Our relationship is just for about 6mos. When i met him he told me he was single. As days passed by i got suspicious. I did my reasearch on him, then bam! He was married. I asked him and he didnt deny. But it was too late! I fell for him slready. He made promises that he will compensate our relationship. That he will respect my feeling. But sooner or later his treatment of me changed. Probably because he knows that im just on a tip of his finger and didny have to do much to keep me. Everytime i tried to leave him, he will act sweet but will diminish once he got me again. He always threaten to break up with me everytime i tell him how he made me feel. He only see me once a month. He wud only call me if he knows im about to demand it. It was really easy for him to keep me and he knows how much i love him. He has not bought me anything. No gifts. But last week was the last straw. He has been cold with me after our fight telling me i'm terrible when all i wanted was a bit of attention. He broke up with me several times but i m so # silly # to always give him a chance. So last wk when he told me he will be overseas for 10 days which i know he will be with his family for a vacay (again) when all he gave me was crumbrier than crumbs. It hit me hard! He goes out having a time of his life, happy and all he gives me nothing! Cheap motels and dinners. No! I would not allow it anymore! I have to cut the string! Im not his puppet anymore. He played with my emotion. Which i allowd. But this time no more! It hurts like hell knowing and realizing that i was used. But i have to accept it. Its my karma and i will face the pain having faith that it will soon be over. I cried and cried. He doesnt even know how he hurt me. I wanted to tell him how he made me feel. But its pointless. I told him that i will not wait anymore. Im done with it. No more explaning or reasoning. Right now it hurts like hell, but i will choose me. He is a rotten branch in my treee that i need to cut. I know i am not a bad person. I just made a bad decision when i chose to believe him and love him. But its up to me to change that now. I have the power to change it.
merida
aww hon i really really feel for you you have given me lots to think about i want to be at the other side like you my situation is a little different but the feelings and thoughts are still the same

i am married and worked with a guy for long time and never thought or felt anything for him i just didn't see him in that light at all ... then one day boom my heart used to race and we both felt a connection and he we looked forward to seeing each other at work he is married with kids also but strangely enough he never talks about his wife in a horrid way he had always told me how happy he was and i was too in my own way to cut a long story short we ended up kissing and nothing major always hugging here and there we both became close messaging every day and talking on the phone and i started developing feelings for him and i fell in love he told me he cares a lot about me but he's not in love with me !
i should have walked away right ? noooo i knew he bent different and we carried on
TRY
i met a man at a sports bar 4 months ago...we were immediately attracted to one another....we started flirting and talking and before you know it we exchanged phone #'s. i clearly asked him if he was "taken" or had any kids. his reply was simply, no! he had just moved to the area for work and doesn't know many people. the first 5 days i knew this man were so very nice...he wined and dined me. on the 6th day, he felt so guilty, being that we had been #loveual the night before, and he told me he was married and couldn't lie to me.
i cried and was very hurt...i really liked this guy. i didn't talk to him for several days...and i received a text from him saying that he missed talking to me...and the truth was, i missed him too. we decided to be friends and did good for about a week. the attraction was far more than just a friendship. we spent almost every night together. i felt like this guy was my boyfriend. to make this long story short. he has a wife and 2 kids that live 6 hours away. he came here for work and the plan was to move them here when she finishes school. i learned to accept the phone calls, hiding when she would face-time, and not texting or calling him when he told me he would be with her. it was very clear that he wasn't leaving her for me. this was very hard for me since i had fallen in love with this man.
well, 4 nights ago we had a wonderful date, went back to his place and somehow his phone called her. she heard everything. including the #loveual interaction that went on. he went outside to talk to her while leaving me inside for an hour. when he came in he hardly spoke to me...as if this was my fault. i asked him if he wanted me to leave and he said it would probably be best....so i did.
i haven't heard from him since then. i know he was off work the past 2 days and i'm pretty sure he went back to see her. although i am sure it over between me and him, i don't know what to do if he was to call or text me. do i respond? i still respect him although he has lied to his family. everything happens for a reason. i know that he is not emotionally or physically happy in his marriage.
just need advise from others that have been through this. do they usually reach out after things calm down?
crazy thing is...it is a relief to me...that was the hardest relationship i have ever had to deal with.
Gloria
women who go after a married man, well, i don't like to judge another, but, it is hurtful to another woman. i don't want to degrade another woman, because, i think us women should stand by each other more. we are so cruel to each other. we are jealous of women who are younger, prettier, smarter, has bigger tits or etc. why is that? we allow men to control how we treat other women. we have enough battles to fight just being a woman in a man's world without fighting each other. i am specking as a divorced woman and yes my husband had an affair. the woman was someone who actually enjoyed busting up homes. why? i am over that now and happily single. one thing i would never do is date a married man. i would never hurt another woman like that. it is just plain mean and karma will caught up to you one day. only the woman is not the only one to blame. any husband who would hurt their wife like this well they don't love them enough to deserve the wife. i will not allow myself to hate anyone because hate and bitterness, resentments and such only hurts the one who allows it in their heart. if you are a woman out there who is hurting other women who does not deserve this. i hold my judgement and give you my prayers and pitty.
Tammy
i have been seeing a married man also for about 5 months now. we started seeing eachother as friends and he was separated from his wife. during the last 5 months we got to know each other very well and i did fall in love with him. just a month ago he went back to his wife cause he said that he was getting pressure from his kids which are older and his friends. he says that he doesn't know if he is happy being home but feels he should give it a shot. he told me that i meant a lot to him, more then i should and that the feelings he has for me he needed to try and get back for his wife. we still text periodically and see eachother for a drink every now and again but i am starting to feel like he is using me. it seems he is wanting to see me when he is having a rough time at home and i must be his "pick me up" so he can go back home and cope again. he was also saying that he was waiting for her to screw up so he could be gone. i think i am coming to my senses that he needs to make up his mind what he wants before i can see him again. ya it hurts cause i really do love him but it will hurt more if i continue to be just a side to him.
siyamthanda
am dating a guy his not married but he's staying with the mother of his 4 years little girls, the problem is he keeps on promising me that he does love her anymore, he need me. i realy don't know if he mean it or not. so this days something he have some excuses when we suppose to meet he tells me he can't his baby is sick or if he suppose to see me after work he told me he can't he got a lift from a friend
lonly
i can relate to how you feel. i've been here more then likely he wants to be with her but telling what you want to hear being that he is not married and the only thing e has to hold on to is the baby. tell him he has to chose don't make the same mistake i have waiting is hurtful. one question if moved out would you let him stay with you? and a question you have to ask yourself is are you ready to deal with baby mama drama?
Michelle
i have been dating a married man for about a year. he never promised to leave and i was okay with that at first. we both fell in love. he spends time with my family and my daughter. i do work for his business and we spend a decent amount of time together. his wife just isnt who she once was and i guess i understand because i was in a similar situation a few years back. i fulfill the voids that she does not and he is honest when he tells me he dont want to leave his son. there are days we talk about being together, as a family. i know thats what we both want. i just hope one day it works out that way. yes, there are days it hurts. the one thing we have is honesty. when i met him i was with someone and we were always honest, including #loveual information. he has not slept with his wife now for several months. he spends hours out of touch. we have had nights away together. my question is...how does she not know?! i have realized with the help of him...she may know and just not care to discuss it.

my question... i have thought about confronting her. should i?
ronald
my advice is no. dont confront her. is not her fault. you and him are in this mess together. first. let the man be a man and let him handle it. confronting her is the worst thing you can do.

dont assume she knows already. because in the event she doesnt know and you confront her, she will be hurt tremendously all to satisfied your guilt.
deb
please, anyone help me!

what do you do if you are married and have a kid but you have fell in love with someone else before it all happened but now they too are married but my heart keeps thinking about him?
sam
i have been and now find myself again for the forth time, waiting and waiting.. much more to this though, i resonated with you, only difference is he either left her or got kicked out and he moved in with me, without my knowledge really, its like he came in through the back door, anyhow he lasted almost 2 weeks gave excuses like i miss my kids etc... this is going to work.... i dont think i love you anymore and on and on, we spent all of christmas together, i met his mother and his sister, but still he packs up and goes, totally cuts off all communication and blocks me on his phone... i asked him why he blocks me just before the last time he left me which was 4 days ago, he says i needed time by myself. yeah right he has said that too many times, i know he has either gone back or he is seeing someone else... the best lie he has told and gone along with is im his soulmate etc and while we do seem to be that to me, i tend to hold back on that, because of his lies.
fathima
Even the same thing happened in my life also,my house owner uncle has fallen in love with me he is 40 yrs old and i'm 22 . One day suddenly he kissed me i was shocked and i pushed him and went home and started cried i wonder why that uncle suddenly behave like this to me. Even i'm very scared to say all that to my mom and to my family members.Days went on like this he used to kiss me almost everyday.At one point of time even i'm started to love him so deeply.One day when no one at my house he came and started doing everything even he had #love with me i don't know why i can't i stop him,he said he even want a baby from me.Now his not ready to marry me bcz he is already married but i can't lose him ,i just want him
Please tell me now what i should do whether i want to leave him and get marry someone else .but i can't marry anyone else than him because i gave my self to him.Please suggest me a good way for my future
Lisa
Im now 53 years old, I had a 6 year affair with a married man when his wife found out he told me not to call anymore that she was on to us and that he would get in touch with me, I never heard one single word from him last weekend out of the blue I get a facebbok request to friend an alias name of course and when he leaves the message it is him , he never forgot about me , he still loves me but if we start again we would see less of each other than even before because he is still married to her and now has very little free time away from her, why did he do this to me it took me so long to get over the hurt and devastation, I never tried contacting him I always thought if we ran into each other out in public my eyes would shoot daggers thru him, I have been with no one since he left me a lil over 3 years ago in fact I believed I was emotionally dead as far as men are concerened but once i told him I forgave the way he did me all those feelings I had for him came pouring back as if I just hadnt seen him in a week or so.... Why did he contact me :-(
Lynn
I actually have 2 stories

Story number one:

I was 20 years old just got out of a really bad relationship and was a single mom to my beautiful daughter. I was working retail and this man came in and asked me for my number. I gave it to him he seemed cute enough!
We started dating we had been together for 3 months. Due to my daughter I never invited him to my house and there was only brief time after work I could see him before I had to get my daughter from daycare. I didn't want my 8 month old daughter to get attached to a non permanent fixture. And I never went to his house because he said it was under construction him being a carpenter it didn't strike me as odd that his house was under construction. Month 3 in are relationship I was in the tub and being young I'm never far from my phone well I got a call to whom I thought was him but it turned out to be his wife that I knew nothing about! Dumb struck, due to the fact that I had been told by him and his friends that he was divorced. I didn't know what to say to the woman so I got off the phone really quick with her. The next day he called me and I confronted him about his wife where he came clean and told me that he was married. It was November, I told him he had till January 1st to leave her or I was gone. January 1 came he didn't call me so we through a new years party and tried to do my best to forget him January 6th he called and told me that he left his wife and we have been together ever since. Now you are confused where is the second story?

Story 2

Me and my fiancé have been together for several years my fiancé is the liar in story one. After numerous rumors of him cheating I got warn down and started looking for another man. Where I came across one. who'd a thunk it! he was a mutual friend of me and said fiancé and we were really great friends going through similar situations and confided in one another about our relationship issues he came to me and told me that he was getting a divorse and I told him I was going to leave my fiancée come summer time so I didn't have to transfer my daughters school mid year and confuse her more. Well I took a business trip a several hours away when I get a call from my fiancé saying that our friend is in town and if I could get some material from him and bring it back home the following week. I said ok. This friend and I met up and started talking about his divorse and his kids and I started telling my latest drama and one thing led to another! A month later his job transferred him closer to me and my fiancé where I would come to his house and see him or he would come to mine and go grocery shopping and visit with my daughter. well a couple weeks later his wife came back into town from a family emergency. The things guys will say and do for a piece of ass! Needless to say so called friend is friend no more!
Sally
Recently found myself in this similar situation. But I didn't tell his wife. She found out on her own. Twice. And took him back. Twice. It's very sad because after a year of letting somebody treat you very badly it really does feel like nobody will ever want you again. It also feels like after what you did to his wife you may not deserve to be loved again. I don't know how I let this happen to me.
Dani
I was at work one night at the hotel I worked at and started talking to a guest that was in the lobby most of the night. By the time I was to get off work he gave me a card with his number and we started texting minutes later after I left. We talked the next day and met the day after that and as we said our good byes (he was going home 3 hours from me) he kissed me. We fell in love and because of his oil field job he travels constantly and is rarely home maybe a couple days a month and works all over the US. We saw each other occasionally when we could but talked / texted constantly every day all day and night. We talked about getting married and even looked at rings. He told me about his ex wife and his 2 daughters and how things were with his family and their problems. 4 months into the relationship I found out that he was not divorced but having an affair with me. Things went down hill fast. I found out about lies, infidelities, other women in his life etc. We still tried to make things work but I'm tired of being hidden and lied about etc. His wife didnt know about me til recently and things have gotten way out of control. He says he wants me and loves me but I have to keep things calm til the divorce is over for the sake of his kids so he can have 50/50 custody of them. He says he realizes how hard it is on me and that its not fair but he has to think about his girls and after all this is said and done we can "re kindle" what we have. We still talk everyday but it usually ends up in an argument. He tells me he loves me and misses me. Idk what to do. Its been almost 7 months since this thing has started. I love him but I dont know what to do anymore.
jam
there are two things in life....if its making you happy go for it, but if aint making you happy anymore, let go...it hurts big time but ull get over it.....cry it out as much as you can, keep praying, you'll be fine in time....help yourself try to find some quiet moment alone, think about of good things...stay positive...if he loves you he will come back...Godbless you
gem
ive been going through the same situation as yours....it hurst real bad...but honestly its not exactlt what i want...i am happy but what makes me even more happy is the idea that i also wanted someone i can really call mine...i do love him so much, but i guess you are right...i only wanted someone to share it with...someone whom i can rely and talk to...thank you for this lovely post ive just started to realise that i should do just the same....
Donna
I met a guy a few years back and weve gre closer and closer and ive just realised that ive fallen in love with him, he is married and i am also married, he has very strong feeligns for me bu also loves his wife, shes cheated on my and ive been cheated on loads and loads of times by the guy im with and i love him but dont feel the same anymore i have 2 kids with him, but i dont no ifi can stay with him i dont no what to do and this other guy we talk almost 24/7 we have shared a kiss or 2 but nothing more but were getting closer so weve both agreed to stop whatever this is, and carry on as mates but even though we still talk all the time, it hurts so so much i cry for him but i no deep down its the right thing to do and i respect him for not leaving his wife or cheating on her, i love him so much but i would rather have him as a friend then nothing so its better this way just hurts so so much xxx
Dyneshia
I been off and on wit a married man which is my babydaddy I love him soo much THA love I have for him is unstoppable I don't know what to do...me and his wife done had fights twice about him and both times he went back to her well the second time he said I made him do it cause he was really gettin a divorce...he was incarterated n dec to jan 2013 and the whole time I was there for him through it all when no one else was and he did me like that he said his mind was set ta already b with me before he went ta jail and when he was n there I got letters ta prove it and traveling down the highway going ta see him every weekend it's crazy and right now ta this day we still talk and he's still married to her we cuz of THA baby at least he try's too make it seems like when he do call it's about the baby but we both know its not so I don't know what ta to can u give me some advise
Amy
I have been with a married man for 2 years. I am also married. He is 18 years older than me and in a high profile job. I am in love with him but also know it will never go anywhere. He was honest with me from the start. He is sweet , kind and has been there for me wether #loveual or emotional... and even financial if I needed it. But.. being in love with someone you can never have wears on you. You are always second and waiting for him to "get away". I would do it differently if I could go back in time.
Susanne
I have know this man for 8 years, we work for the same company and have been what I would call good friends. I was always attracted to him, but figured whomever was married to him was sure to be thankful everyday when he walked in the door. I was married too, unhappy, but married. When my relationship imploded, I sent an innocently flirtatious e-mail to this man, that could have been taken not flirtatious, if that makes sense. He bit, bit hard and fast. We started emailing and found out there was a mutual attraction, started talking, found out he was miserable and didn't know what to do. It became physical, and the feelings followed......s feelings. He came to me one day and said he could no longer engage in the physical relationship, because he didn't want his children to get hurtbif our relationship was discovered. Of course I understood..... are his children. We have stayed away from a physical relationship, but keep circling around.....let be friends, talk on the phone.....nothi romantic. A few deep feeling, need to move on emails.....but we have had a hard time breaking away. Just today, I have decided I must rip off the band aide and end all personal contact. If he is to leave, then I won't be involved with him to know what is going on. If we are meant to be, he will return when he is able, I just have to hurt now and heal from the wrong way that we have been involved.
rita
What state does he live in? What are his initials.
|Froots
Please keep me informed of your progress... I feel very simular to what you just posted here... But been feeling a low... it gets hard.. ben sticking to my "me" feelings... but there are days when it hurts so much. But I agree you need to love you first. Love is love you can't help it... but if it ends up going weird.. and you will know... Remembe yourself first above all. and it will hurt. but it needs to hurt if it is to heal.
Sick
If you are a single woman involved with a married man you are asking for trouble and you deserve it!Contrary to belief all married men seem to have the same old line about leaving their wife!Why get yourself all caught up with a man that you will never have! Never!It's just too many men out there to be with who will treat you right and not be married to someone else! I have read alot of these comments and it seems like the same man is cheating on all of you ladies cb they are doing and saying the same thing and these weak women are falling for it!
myna
yes i do agree on that, with the girls who fell in love with the marred man, because i do believe in karma, there is a good karma and bad karma. please let him go for the reason he is still married and you will be a mistress forever
kim
im involved with a man whos wife lives in another state. they havent lived together for 3 or 4 yrs. she has lung cancer and has been in remission for 6 years.she lives with her mom and has her dr.s there. she hates it here and he cant move because of his job. he travels alot and i go with him most of the time. he is lonely and she has taken so much meds that she isnt all their. he let me hear her when he is on the phone with her.she has a mind of a 12 yr old because of the meds. he promised her when she was first sick he would never leave her. we are both in love with each other and dont know what to do! of course we all have our doughts. she started smoking again and heavy. he let me hear her mother talk to him. ive seem med bills and he keeps me posted on her health. i do hope she is ok. i dont wish her harm at all. and i understand his promise. when she was 15 her mother told him she was pregnant and she wasnt. so he married her. when he found out it was to late. he cared for her but he didnt love her the way he should have. but he didnt tell his family about what happened and they are from a real southern state. so marriage is gospel. he is three yrs older than her and i he now 49 yrs old. we both want to be happy. he has no children but i do and he loves them alot. he allways wanted a family. i dont know what to do. my family of course dosnt know about this. they think he is divorced. please tell me what to do. im so confussed.. please help me!!!!
Sarah
how wierd chris, im the same age as you , and the married man im seeing is the same age as you said too. how odd.
Chris
I've been seeing him for a year. He is 52. I am 21. I am deeply in love with him, and he with me. I am not his first mistress. But I am the first one he has fallen in love with, and I am the first one to be around this long. We have had our ups and downs but we have made each other so happy. I can't even imagine another man touching me. The idea makes me sick. 5 days ago he showed up at my house, told me he was getting a divorce, he finally told his wife he didn't love her anymore. He talked about how I could be a part of his life now, how I could meet his daughters, how we would take trips together, and be together freely. He spent the night and the next morning she called him. She wants marriage counseling, and he agreed. He has no hope for the marriage and he doesn't want to be in it, but he feels bad for her because she believes in him. She believes in a lie because she doesn't know about me. He can't decide if he can tell her about me or not. I don't think he will. He wants me to wait until he can decide. I cry every night, hoping to hear from him. He isn't happy, and when we talk on the phone he is despondent and in pain. I hate hearing him like this even though it's his fault, even though I spend every night feeling like that. He told me everything I've been waiting to hear, after months of patience, and once I let myself be happy about it... he tore it from under me. Part of me wants to hate him, to say go be with her, stay out of guilt, make her miserable. Make yourself miserable. You deserve it. And leave him to think about the best thing that ever happened to him (me)as a memory that he can no longer keep simmering on his back burner. But then I smell his scent on his shirt that I've slept in, see his wine glass on my countertop that I can't bear to remove, and I think of all I would do to just feel his arms around me for one moment in time. And I realize that no matter what, I will love him and I will be the one suffering. No matter what. No matter what.
salman
will u marride me so tall u plz ..?
Lady
His 31 yrs older than u, you definitely deserve better than being some ones 2nd choice at this age.
You should be out dating and discovering what it is you want in a partner and that definitely should not be some one who is that much older than you and married probably with kids your age or older.
I was the OW not long ago and it ended about a month a go when his wife found out and all of a sudden she became the priority. In the Beginning it was a nightmare to try and forget and move on… first 2-3 weeks was miserable, constantly waiting for a call a message an email anything from him… and when I got one it made me so happy and hopefully.
However I haven’t heard from him in the last 2 weeks and struggled… but its getting easier.. and more and more I realize it would have never worked out and we could have gone for years and years before all this would happen, I am 27 now so its good that it ended when I am young.
At 21… you should be having fun and enjoying life, discovering what you want to do and choosing a direction in life.
Don’t mean to be lecturing you at all…
Just trying to let you know it will get easier once you decide to move on and struggle for a bit .. then you will see the light!
After all at his age… he has lived his life, he has kids and a family and if not already soon will have grandkids etc… but you haven’t! and lets say he even leaves his wife to be with you……. Is he going to want to experience what you haven’t all over with you?
Will you be happy now and in the long run with some one who is so much older and some one who cheated on their partner to be with you? Will you be able to trust him every time he goes to a family function or gathering with out you?
You are just too young to be going through this =(
autumn
Im married n my husband is very kind guy. He prepares food for the kids, do the laundry n etc.. but the problem start when he always busy with those stuff n he forget that he has a wife that needs some care aswell.. so due to this dullness, i met a guy who is perfect to me in the beginning.. it was great that both of us who are married fall in love to each other.. after a year he mentioned to me that he doesnt to marry me because he has kids n just want to fool around.. i was upsate but ok.. since that wat he wants.. after 3 years he changes his mind.. he wants me n want to divorce as he said his wife also doesnt love him anymore.. in one way i have doubt in that as a lover will missed each other n one to be in contact.. he is going for a vacation with his daughter, he look forward to it but he didnt even take into account that he will not be contact with me for sometimes as there will be no coverage n that area.. this happen often.. we are now in two different countries and communication is so important.. it seems he takes thing for granted now n i hate it.. he loves his daughter so much but his daughter never listen to her.. i will divorce anyway but not certainly i will get maried to anyone after my divorce..
RC
Stay strong Chris. Your heart is saying another thing although we are saying other wise. If we love someONE, it will always feel more hurt on the bearer. The feeling of longing will always be there no matter how difficult the decision is.
hannah
I am in the exact same place and share your pain. I am giving myself 1 more month of this and if he does not step up, I am leaving for good. possibly moving to another state to attempt at removing him from my mind and heart and skin. :( it is heart breaking.
Khalissa
Hi I'm a 28 year old female who has never been married. I have been dating this guy who who is a 43 year old man for awhile now and he's married. He spends everyday/ every night or at least sometimes he even spends the night with me. I have a big problem because now im 2 months pregnant by him. I really didnt look at how serious it was to be dating a married man intill i started. He's everything that i want in a man and more but i know that's not were i need to be. So if anyone has advice please tell me.
Tee
I am sorry to hear your predicament. U have to let him know and see how he reacts. You can tell a lot from the way he will react to the news of the pregnancy. If he is supportive, he probably cares about you and can work things out. Just know that in the future, as long as he is with his wife, u will go thru a lot of times when u will feel alone and unsupported and down.
debbie
I am in love w/ a married man. I've known him for 5 years - our kids on same soccer team. He always flirted and I was married but felt he liked me..I was very coy and was just friendly. Then, my now ex husband divorced me for a younger woman - that was 2 years ago..a year after, me and the married man started facebooking, then an affair ensued, 4 mos. later we were saying we loved each other..he still married..in a bad marriage..etc. Now a year later, he is confused and not sure if he wants to leave wife or not..its been on and off..me getting frustrated, wanting more and him going backa nd forth..we both agreed he needs time to figure out what he needs or what will make him happy; I need to do the same..so I cried my eyes out but sticking to it.
Laura
aww the internet is great for info. Its been going on for the guts of 5 months...hes been married 10 years ...told me he doesnt love her...yeah right...time to get rid :( i love him but jeez i dont wana be a homewrecker!!! AT the start it was different, he said he was going to separate, but hes still wit her, and im done.
laura
Cheating is a sign of EMOTIONAL ABUSE. This is a RED FLAG!! And is very serious. I'd like to see women stand together against this. It hurts because it is BAD. Please know that however wonderful the cheating person you love seems to be, that it is likely his wife is going through a serious depression loving him and hateing him for the same reasons as you. One of the smartest things I ever did was to leave a cheating man. I "let" the other woman have him. That means, I knew him better then her and that was my amo against her, because I knew that if I contacted him he'd still go for it. So I did NOT contact him at all. I let her think she got what she wanted and knew ahead of time her dreams would come crushing down. Of course to this day they are NOT together. It matters that you find a faithful man. You're signing your life away to sadness and misery. There are a billion men in this world. Why the one you with worth emotionally dieing for? He's not doing the same for you. Wheres his blog confessing to the world of his eternal love for you?
Not
Laura, well said. I did the same thing. My fiance cheated and after he said he wanted to work things out and come back (after I kicked him to the other woman), he continued to cheat. It is true that the wife or long term partner knows the cheater so much better than the other woman. A few nights of passion. . .sneaky encounters. . .all of that isn't as much fun when reality sets in and he's sitting on the couch doing nothing while he expects you to take care of him and earn the cash. You might have time for intimacy in the beginning, but once you are busy doing all the work in the partnership, you will see why the wife was so miserable and in turn why the cheater wasn't getting what he wanted. It's not because the wife can't deliver, it's because the cheater doesn't pull his weight and is selfish - hence the cheating. In the end, I too let her have him. One woman's trash is another woman's treasure - or so she thinks. There's also something to be said about the older, wiser wife vs. the younger more naive mistress. The wife has been through it, knows the game. The mistress is new to the game and will find out. We've all been young and not known. And then there's a matter of respect - respect for one's self, the relationship the others are in, and the cheater. If there is any respect, the mistress should tell the cheater to deal with his situation and then get back to her when it's taken care of. In my situation, karma is a wonderful thing since they are now dealing with a domestic violence charge which is something that is sure to add to their budding relationship. He walked out of my life in handcuffs, and straight into hers. I would think that would be a red flag for her, but I guess she likes the idea of being choked when he loses his temper. He's probably manipulated her further into telling her he didn't do anything, which she wants to believe. Cheating is about manipulation and lies. Do you really want something based on manipulation and lies? Or would you rather start fresh with someone that is unattached and have honesty, integrity, strong character, and real love? If the cheater would just focus on the relationship they are currently in, they wouldn't be as miserable as they let on. It's about them not taking responsibility. And so the cycle will continue with whomever the cheater's next victim is as long as women continue to allow themselves to fall victim. Laura is correct is stating cheating is emotional abuse. And the cheaters do not care who they are hurting. They lie to you and they lie to their partners. .good luck to us all.
Imorgen
Im dating a married man and he is seperated he had a seven year old daughter with his ex. He says he will divorce her when he found a woman he would fall in love with. He has never told me that he loves me but his actions show me that he does. I love him so much and i want to marry him. Will he ever leave her/Divorce her? When i met him they had already seperated and its obvious they dont get along they totally hate each other i dont know why they cant finalize the divorce. They dont live together. Does he really care about me or im just anotherwoman to warm his bed?
dumbfool
after3 years relationship, just found out my lover does not live with his father all week but goes home to a wife and child.so each night he said goodbye he went straight to her.....i just cant stop vomiting. if i had a gun i dont know who i would shoot first, me or him.i have never felt so bad, so ugly, so humiliated, what about his poor family....i hope his wife never finds out -this pain has got to be the same she would feel if she ever found out....uugh, i invested 3 years for this cheating piece of shit.worse still is that i work in the same office and have to be polite and proffessional in everyones company so that nobody finds out. God give me strenghth to cling to whatever dignity i have left...message - dont ever trust a man
Inthoseshoes
I am where you were in your relationship. Mine started out as friends too. I was going through a tough time in my life and he found me online and asked me out. I saw his profile said separated and his picture was up so I figured he was honest. He told me the truth how she and he were not together anymore and they do live separately, however, he makes excuses after excuses every month as to why he can't divorce.. ie the kids, it will hurt them, I'm worried about their financial future, etc. He has been there for me in many ways when I was sick and in the hospital, etc. But his wife and kids from his 2nd marriage have no clue I exist as they live 100's of miles away. His other kids from his first marriage no me.. but when he goes to see his younger kids I do not exist. He ended up in the hospital a little while ago.. guess who got called to be the emergency contact and went to the hospital with the kids and stayed by his side all week? His wife! It has changed me forever and how I view him. I know he's trying but it just isn't enough. I told him I didn't want to date him because he was not divorced and he said he was getting one.. that was a long time ago. The perfect man for me ends up being a lie. We are still together but I"m starting to drift away slowly as to protect myself and heart and his. I will tell him once he recovers from his ailment that I am going to end it and take a break from him. He needs to show me he or she filed for divorce before I will see him again. If he cannot do it, then I will know how much he really loves me. Men need to do it right and not cheat. I never looked at myself as a mistress until this all came down. He introduced me to all his friends and colleages, took me to functions in his town, etc. I am sure in some eyes I am his girlfriend as he calls me, however to many others they know he's married. I love him so much but I cannot live like this anymore. My advice is to do what this girl said and make excuses not to see him slowly and then when you have enough strength to either end it or give him an ultimateum about filing and getting the divorce and you won't see him until he does. Then you will see how much he loves you...
francesca
I was kicked out of the by my ex with a 6 weeks old baby because of some silly girl that he is now married to. I vowed i would never do that with anyones boyfriend or husband because of the pain it inflicted on me. Now that im getting closer to a new found friend who happens to be married. He has shown some interest in me and now i cant hide my feelings for him. We text all day and sometimes call each other. He told that him and his wife are falling out of love, i really want to give him a chance because i have fallen deeply for him. I know its not the right thing to do, but hey, another woman did it to me and my baby. My mind is in a state of i dont care attitude because he is one mature and sincere and lovey guy. I havent dated since i broke up with my ex. I last had love when i was 7 months pregant because my ex was refusing me, i found out he was getting it from some b8. Its almost 2yrs and i havent dated anyone because i didnt feel ready. Now that im a bit financially and emmotionally stable, im ready to take off... it just happened that the right candidate is married. Ive been hurt before, no pity.
Victoria
I'm a teenager and i have been heartbroken from one boy who ive known in the past 2 years who played around and i decided to let him go , we were never really together but he gives me mixed signals and keeps coming back , i cant let him go and ive tried to get over him , i did last year for a few months and i met someone not intentionally and weve been dating for 7 months i really adore him and we get along well and he makes me happy , although 2 months after out relationship i fell again for my ex again although now its not on my mind if he came back i would panic , but lately in Feburary a situation ahppened with my bf and my mother and involving the Police , shes judgemental of him , my father and friends adore him , but hes being watched and lately ive spoken to someone involved in the Law more often weve been friends since i was 14 , so a few years now but since my bf and i ahvent been talking im used to it i dont seem to miss him which is bad , i miss the old days with him and want them back as its been hard but ive fallen for this law man , hes married and has a son and horrifically we like each other , its either a crush or lust but i want him in the way of protection and an innocent relationship but im not the cheater and i cannot ruin a family , it might be a pahse , but with age difference and people judging im really worried about my feelings and if i end up sneaking off with him . Hope you can help
troubled_heart_and_mind
I am not the mistress. I was wondering if a mistress has conscience. My husband's mistress is sending me emails.It's very obvious that she is the other woman but she don't admit it. I want to hear it from her that she is the other woman,I am looking for proof before I ask my husband about his affair. What should I say to make her admit it?
just_an_ordinary_woman
I understand the feeling of falling in love, but I also understand the feelings of being hurt. I have never been and never want to be in a relationship with a married man as a mistress. It is just pure selfishness and no self-discipline
If I was the wife and my husband has a mistress outside I would be very hurt and sad, becaues I too, like many of you have had the feeling of fallen in love with a man who I trust the most and believe is the world to me. I (the wife) would be hurt than any mistress because she went through so much more with this man (husband). Please put yourselves at someone else's shoes, this kind of relationships ends no where, it ends up hurting everyone. Please use common sense, you are more mature than that.
Please, PLEASE stop being a mistress and hurt people (and yourself) be strong! I beg of you, as a (wife) this is the LAST thing I want to have happened to me, and it will not just shatter my heart permanently but also my life. AND the children. Your selfishness and immaturity will destroy so many people's lives (including yours). so PLEASE, PLEASE DON'T DO IT, don't destroy other people's family, don't destroy other people's lives. Men do things like this because hope-less romantics like you guys exist, but if no one sets examples anymore this will stop. Please, stop being a mistress, I love him with all my heart and trust him with all my heart, like many of you may have said, I'm a woman too, just like all of you. Please, don't do it, for the sake of everyone.
confused
I thought it would be easy and no feelings would ever get involved but that proved to be completely wrong!!! I am in love with him but continually get hurt but for some reason I can't just walk away. I know he won't leave but he spends more time with me than with her so I felt that I could handel it but the truth is I am now feeling remorse and bad for her.. If your not in this situation DON'T ever get yourself in it just run.....
dontdothat
do not do this-what is your gain?
instead of one broken heart-yours there will be 3 at least; more if there are children envolved. what did they do to you? no one is to blame here except for you and him. And I am not a puritan.
I too am in love with a married guy and I think he is in love with me, but we both are intelligent enough not to fall into our passion and start a bad affair. We keep it as a most enjoyable non acted romance. We both enjoy lingering on each other and talking and we are elegant enough not to fornicate out of wedlock and hurt our surroundings and our spouses. Maybe we have bad thoughts, but when we come home we are relatively clean.
So please be kind to yourself and to your lovers family and do not do this. better if you leave him, but I do understand you that it is impossible for you at the minute. You need to meet someone who will release you from this addiction.
Ple be kind.
Betsy
Hi,I wont tell you my age but my romance started few years ago with this guy I met, you see I was really naive and he was older then I was. He was charming but at times I wasnt so into him all of a sudden time went on and I started to fall in love with him at this trime I didnt know he was married so I had a boyfriend who lived away, he said he had roomate and I couldnt visit, I was young and silly and I believes it.So 3 years when bye and I got my own place he would visit and I also knew his friends who he would introduce me to and we would go and hang out now and then. I wouldalways speak to him from the time he woke up till the time he would get out of work and saygoodnight, he would also get jealous possesive about where i was and whith who I was going to be I felt that one day he would pop the question, in my mind I was the one.one day he told me I have something to tell you and I said what is it and I remember he said he was married i was about 22 23 yrs of age and I was religious before i met him so I really didnt know much about a player or men games out here in Ny. So my love for him was so strong i only accepted it because he promised me he will get a divorce give me 3 yrs then 5 yrs then i got oregnat 6 yrs into the relationship we both decided to have a baby he swore one day we will be together I was in college and didnt want kids later on I wasnt getting any younger so I had a child and it was ok umtil they sent a birth certificate to his house 6 months later you see he owns a home with her so they found his address and on valentines day his wife got the news. Oh did he change he said he couldnt trust me he stop coming bye to see the baby and i would see him less often Ive been though hell with this men my child is 6 yrs old and my kid will get sick from not seeing her dad.I wonder how men sleep without knowing if their kid eats or if its sick>My advise is to run he promised my parents he would take care of me and yet till now 2012 he swears his not happy but he figures going through a divorse cost money maintance child support his getting older he has a lot to loose plus he said if I go with you would you take care of me I dont want to work and would you pay my maintance if i want him very badly y should i take care of this lady if she once told me my kid was from the devil and shes supose to be a christian I dont know what type of church she goes to. My point is just because a men tells you somethhing he might at the end turn it on you and say youre the one thats bothering him.I stopped seeing him for about 1 and a half years and he only calls to have phone love and I have to hang up on him. How can a men be a prince and another day is like you dont know who you dealing with I went through a very emotional stage with time your heart will heal and when you have kids you heal faster if your kids mean that much seeing them grow and the other parent being absent I have to make believe that the dad is away in the army i dont know for how long it hurts to see your child cry and them looking at a window to see if their dad is coming to visit :( i dont wish this on anybody now if you know his married from the beginning thats different im thinking you can prevent from falling in love with someone who already marry but i was tricked along with million of women who go through this every day very few men leave now that im not with him I am more cautious and look at men different nobody can hurt me no more ,good luck ladies and if you know a jerk leave now I met some nice guys being with him instead I decided to stay single mom and on some ocasions I would look at the guys who asked me out they look happy and married with kids in a nice house 11 years what did I gain a broken heart and wrinkles lol joking yes a broken heart and those11 years i would never gain back dont be like me theres so many guys out there runnnnn nowwwwwwwwwwwww
saloni
hi. i am 22 years old. i had a relation with a guy sice past 4 and half years. at that time i was 17 years old. earlier he used to say that he would definitely marry me but about 3 months ago he got engaged to someone else and he said that it's arranged by his parents and he can't deny them. he said that his parents are not agreeing to accept our relation as i am not as rich as him so according to them i m not a suitable match. i have tried hard to keep distance with him but every time he pleads in front of me to talk to him and be with him always but he can't leave that girl at the same time. he prefers talking to her instead of me. he goes out with her, meets her too. please advice me what i should do at this point of time?
Misa17
We are working in a same place... we meet everyday...I know that he is married with 1 kid... but for now, i still don't care... i'll be leaving this city in just another one month so i think i want to cherish every moment left for us.. i know that this is crazy but i just can't help it... i hope that after i leave, i can forget everything about him..
lilly
My husband is back again two weeks ago. I am so grateful to ancientijebudes I stood on the promise of that little mustard seed and miracles started happening everywhere in my life, not only my marriage is healed, but also my family is healing.All thanks to ancientijebudes Lilly
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