Ways To Make A Married Man Leave His Wife For You Best Advise
Well, if you are reading my post, most likely you are in love with some married guy.. That’s not good. You are in a very difficult situation. Most married guys won’t leave their wife because they are scared to hurt their feelings. It’s especially true if the guy already has kids with her. If they have children, it’s going to be very difficult for him to leave her for you. My advice to you is to just forget about him, leave him alone so he can continue his life with his wife because you are just wasting your time and energy with this dude. Seriously.
There are many ways you can make him leave his wife. The best way would be that (if he really loves you), he will be willing to sacrifice all for you and get a divorce and marry you.. I bet that’s what you want don’t you..? We all want that, but we are just fooling ourselves. Think about this for a minute. Lets say that everything works out between you and him, you guys get married. Do you know what Karma is? Yup,, he'll do the same thing to you, and instead of you being the mistress, you will be the wife who is being cheated on. So stop this nonsense and let him go. Its just going to hurt you even more later. Put yourself in the wife's shoes, how would you feel if you were the wife?
anyways, I am telling you this from experience.. this is what happened to me.
I went out with this guy for almost 5 years.. At first it started as a friendship, but as we got to know each other, My respect and admiration was increased by his strong and brave character. I love smart guys and he was all that I wanted in a man, BUT HE WAS OLDER THAN I. I was very disappointed when he told me he was already married. But I didn’t care much because I knew we were just friends. - That’s all.
So one day, we went to dinner together. Just as friends... That was a mistake! He was so romantic and made me feel really special... :) I really needed someone to treat me like that. All the jerks I had met before were immature. But he was so passionate and romantic. After time, I started to realize I was falling in love with him. I could not stop my heart from falling in love. I asked him not to ask me out anymore, but he keept insisting. hahaha. That’s what I love about him too. He doesn’t give up so easy. I like a man that gets what he wants..
So anywayz, we continued to go out and sleep together. Until after two years, I started to wonder where we were going. I asked him where we are headed. He said he was confused and did not know. But he was very happy with me. Another year passed by and nothing. We kept sneaking out after work and go places together. Even to motels.. By now, I was starting to feel cheap. I felt he only wanted to sleep with me. But I didn’t tell him because I didn’t want to pressure him and lose him.
After 4 years, (I know. im so stupid) I confronted him and told him that I cannot continue like this. So we stopped seeing each other.. I missed him so much. :( I kept thinking about him all the time and I even cried for him every night. Then all of the sudden he calls me and we started the whole thing again.. and yet again, I started to feel used.. This time he said he was thinking about how he would get out of his marriage so he can get marry to me. He kept giving hope, and as a fool, I felt for it. He kept giving me excuse after excuse. He tells me about his wife, she is sick and she is lonely, she doesn’t have her parents and it’s hard for him to leave her.
I woke up one morning and decided I wasn't going to be the second plate for him no more. I had to put a stop to it. I came to realize that he was not going to give up his marriage for me. So I kept giving him excuses after excuse that I could not meet with him.
In my mind, I kept wondering some ways how I can make him my husband. these are Some ideas I came up with...
1. The obvious one was to get pregnant with him. - That is the worst thing you can do. You will just make another life more miserable, so don’t do it
2. Another idea I had was to run away with him - I asked him and he said no
3. Ok, I said to myself, well, if I can't have him, then no one will. I was ready to confront him at his house. I was going to go to his house and talk to him while his wife was at home. I knew that if his wife found out about us, she was going to divorce him.. So I did. Oh boy, it was a big mistake. When the wife found out about it. She cried and cried. I felt so horrible. He screamed at me and told me to go away. My heart was so broken. I had never felt so disappointed. I went home crying and I vowed never to see him again.
It’s been 6 years now since that happened to me. And now that I have time to reflect on my experience I realize that there are more women in my situation.
So my advice to you my dear, if you are involved with a married man, you are making a big mistake. He will not leave his wife for you. Unless he is already divorce and done with his wife, he will continue to be with her and you will just be another of his sides.. Don’t fall in this trap
I know it’s not what you want to hear. You probably want some magic way to make him be with you all the time. But unfortunately there is none. Let him go. If he is meant for you, he will come to you. But don’t accept him if he is still married. Otherwise, you will fall into the same hole I was and you will just be wasting your time.
I know its going to hurt at the beginning when you break it up. But trust me. After one month after you don’t see him, you will start to feel better and you are going to wondered how you could ever fall into something like this. When you are in love and it hurts, the worst thing you can do is to listen to music. Don’t listen to songs at all, because they will just remind you of him. So don’t listen to music for a whole month. And you will see, it works.
I hope my experience has helped you. If you are going through already, please, tell me your story. I would like to learn from you so we can all help other girls out there who might be in the same situation and they can learn from us
Thu May 09, 2013
a week ago i just broke up with married man. Our relationship is just for about 6mos. When i met him he told me he was single. As days passed by i got suspicious. I did my reasearch on him, then bam! He was married. I asked him and he didnt deny. But it was too late! I fell for him slready. He made promises that he will compensate our relationship. That he will respect my feeling. But sooner or later his treatment of me changed. Probably because he knows that im just on a tip of his finger and didny have to do much to keep me. Everytime i tried to leave him, he will act sweet but will diminish once he got me again. He always threaten to break up with me everytime i tell him how he made me feel. He only see me once a month. He wud only call me if he knows im about to demand it. It was really easy for him to keep me and he knows how much i love him. He has not bought me anything. No gifts. But last week was the last straw. He has been cold with me after our fight telling me i'm terrible when all i wanted was a bit of attention. He broke up with me several times but i m so # silly # to always give him a chance. So last wk when he told me he will be overseas for 10 days which i know he will be with his family for a vacay (again) when all he gave me was crumbrier than crumbs. It hit me hard! He goes out having a time of his life, happy and all he gives me nothing! Cheap motels and dinners. No! I would not allow it anymore! I have to cut the string! Im not his puppet anymore. He played with my emotion. Which i allowd. But this time no more! It hurts like hell knowing and realizing that i was used. But i have to accept it. Its my karma and i will face the pain having faith that it will soon be over. I cried and cried. He doesnt even know how he hurt me. I wanted to tell him how he made me feel. But its pointless. I told him that i will not wait anymore. Im done with it. No more explaning or reasoning. Right now it hurts like hell, but i will choose me. He is a rotten branch in my treee that i need to cut. I know i am not a bad person. I just made a bad decision when i chose to believe him and love him. But its up to me to change that now. I have the power to change it.
Wed May 08, 2013
Even the same thing happened in my life also,my house owner uncle has fallen in love with me he is 40 yrs old and i'm 22 . One day suddenly he kissed me i was shocked and i pushed him and went home and started cried i wonder why that uncle suddenly behave like this to me. Even i'm very scared to say all that to my mom and to my family members.Days went on like this he used to kiss me almost everyday.At one point of time even i'm started to love him so deeply.One day when no one at my house he came and started doing everything even he had #love with me i don't know why i can't i stop him,he said he even want a baby from me.Now his not ready to marry me bcz he is already married but i can't lose him ,i just want him Please tell me now what i should do whether i want to leave him and get marry someone else .but i can't marry anyone else than him because i gave my self to him.Please suggest me a good way for my future
Sat May 04, 2013
Im now 53 years old, I had a 6 year affair with a married man when his wife found out he told me not to call anymore that she was on to us and that he would get in touch with me, I never heard one single word from him last weekend out of the blue I get a facebbok request to friend an alias name of course and when he leaves the message it is him , he never forgot about me , he still loves me but if we start again we would see less of each other than even before because he is still married to her and now has very little free time away from her, why did he do this to me it took me so long to get over the hurt and devastation, I never tried contacting him I always thought if we ran into each other out in public my eyes would shoot daggers thru him, I have been with no one since he left me a lil over 3 years ago in fact I believed I was emotionally dead as far as men are concerened but once i told him I forgave the way he did me all those feelings I had for him came pouring back as if I just hadnt seen him in a week or so.... Why did he contact me :-(
Mon Apr 01, 2013
I actually have 2 stories
Story number one:
I was 20 years old just got out of a really bad relationship and was a single mom to my beautiful daughter. I was working retail and this man came in and asked me for my number. I gave it to him he seemed cute enough! We started dating we had been together for 3 months. Due to my daughter I never invited him to my house and there was only brief time after work I could see him before I had to get my daughter from daycare. I didn't want my 8 month old daughter to get attached to a non permanent fixture. And I never went to his house because he said it was under construction him being a carpenter it didn't strike me as odd that his house was under construction. Month 3 in are relationship I was in the tub and being young I'm never far from my phone well I got a call to whom I thought was him but it turned out to be his wife that I knew nothing about! Dumb struck, due to the fact that I had been told by him and his friends that he was divorced. I didn't know what to say to the woman so I got off the phone really quick with her. The next day he called me and I confronted him about his wife where he came clean and told me that he was married. It was November, I told him he had till January 1st to leave her or I was gone. January 1 came he didn't call me so we through a new years party and tried to do my best to forget him January 6th he called and told me that he left his wife and we have been together ever since. Now you are confused where is the second story?
Me and my fiancé have been together for several years my fiancé is the liar in story one. After numerous rumors of him cheating I got warn down and started looking for another man. Where I came across one. who'd a thunk it! he was a mutual friend of me and said fiancé and we were really great friends going through similar situations and confided in one another about our relationship issues he came to me and told me that he was getting a divorse and I told him I was going to leave my fiancée come summer time so I didn't have to transfer my daughters school mid year and confuse her more. Well I took a business trip a several hours away when I get a call from my fiancé saying that our friend is in town and if I could get some material from him and bring it back home the following week. I said ok. This friend and I met up and started talking about his divorse and his kids and I started telling my latest drama and one thing led to another! A month later his job transferred him closer to me and my fiancé where I would come to his house and see him or he would come to mine and go grocery shopping and visit with my daughter. well a couple weeks later his wife came back into town from a family emergency. The things guys will say and do for a piece of ass! Needless to say so called friend is friend no more!
Thu Mar 28, 2013
Recently found myself in this similar situation. But I didn't tell his wife. She found out on her own. Twice. And took him back. Twice. It's very sad because after a year of letting somebody treat you very badly it really does feel like nobody will ever want you again. It also feels like after what you did to his wife you may not deserve to be loved again. I don't know how I let this happen to me.
Sun May 27, 2012
I was at work one night at the hotel I worked at and started talking to a guest that was in the lobby most of the night. By the time I was to get off work he gave me a card with his number and we started texting minutes later after I left. We talked the next day and met the day after that and as we said our good byes (he was going home 3 hours from me) he kissed me. We fell in love and because of his oil field job he travels constantly and is rarely home maybe a couple days a month and works all over the US. We saw each other occasionally when we could but talked / texted constantly every day all day and night. We talked about getting married and even looked at rings. He told me about his ex wife and his 2 daughters and how things were with his family and their problems. 4 months into the relationship I found out that he was not divorced but having an affair with me. Things went down hill fast. I found out about lies, infidelities, other women in his life etc. We still tried to make things work but I'm tired of being hidden and lied about etc. His wife didnt know about me til recently and things have gotten way out of control. He says he wants me and loves me but I have to keep things calm til the divorce is over for the sake of his kids so he can have 50/50 custody of them. He says he realizes how hard it is on me and that its not fair but he has to think about his girls and after all this is said and done we can "re kindle" what we have. We still talk everyday but it usually ends up in an argument. He tells me he loves me and misses me. Idk what to do. Its been almost 7 months since this thing has started. I love him but I dont know what to do anymore.
Thu Mar 14, 2013
there are two things in life....if its making you happy go for it, but if aint making you happy anymore, let go...it hurts big time but ull get over it.....cry it out as much as you can, keep praying, you'll be fine in time....help yourself try to find some quiet moment alone, think about of good things...stay positive...if he loves you he will come back...Godbless you
Fri Mar 08, 2013
ive been going through the same situation as yours....it hurst real bad...but honestly its not exactlt what i want...i am happy but what makes me even more happy is the idea that i also wanted someone i can really call mine...i do love him so much, but i guess you are right...i only wanted someone to share it with...someone whom i can rely and talk to...thank you for this lovely post ive just started to realise that i should do just the same....
Sat Mar 02, 2013
I met a guy a few years back and weve gre closer and closer and ive just realised that ive fallen in love with him, he is married and i am also married, he has very strong feeligns for me bu also loves his wife, shes cheated on my and ive been cheated on loads and loads of times by the guy im with and i love him but dont feel the same anymore i have 2 kids with him, but i dont no ifi can stay with him i dont no what to do and this other guy we talk almost 24/7 we have shared a kiss or 2 but nothing more but were getting closer so weve both agreed to stop whatever this is, and carry on as mates but even though we still talk all the time, it hurts so so much i cry for him but i no deep down its the right thing to do and i respect him for not leaving his wife or cheating on her, i love him so much but i would rather have him as a friend then nothing so its better this way just hurts so so much xxx
Fri Mar 01, 2013
I been off and on wit a married man which is my babydaddy I love him soo much THA love I have for him is unstoppable I don't know what to do...me and his wife done had fights twice about him and both times he went back to her well the second time he said I made him do it cause he was really gettin a divorce...he was incarterated n dec to jan 2013 and the whole time I was there for him through it all when no one else was and he did me like that he said his mind was set ta already b with me before he went ta jail and when he was n there I got letters ta prove it and traveling down the highway going ta see him every weekend it's crazy and right now ta this day we still talk and he's still married to her we cuz of THA baby at least he try's too make it seems like when he do call it's about the baby but we both know its not so I don't know what ta to can u give me some advise
Tue Feb 26, 2013
I have been with a married man for 2 years. I am also married. He is 18 years older than me and in a high profile job. I am in love with him but also know it will never go anywhere. He was honest with me from the start. He is sweet , kind and has been there for me wether #loveual or emotional... and even financial if I needed it. But.. being in love with someone you can never have wears on you. You are always second and waiting for him to "get away". I would do it differently if I could go back in time.
Mon May 28, 2012
I have know this man for 8 years, we work for the same company and have been what I would call good friends. I was always attracted to him, but figured whomever was married to him was sure to be thankful everyday when he walked in the door. I was married too, unhappy, but married. When my relationship imploded, I sent an innocently flirtatious e-mail to this man, that could have been taken not flirtatious, if that makes sense. He bit, bit hard and fast. We started emailing and found out there was a mutual attraction, started talking, found out he was miserable and didn't know what to do. It became physical, and the feelings followed......s feelings. He came to me one day and said he could no longer engage in the physical relationship, because he didn't want his children to get hurtbif our relationship was discovered. Of course I understood..... are his children. We have stayed away from a physical relationship, but keep circling around.....let be friends, talk on the phone.....nothi romantic. A few deep feeling, need to move on emails.....but we have had a hard time breaking away. Just today, I have decided I must rip off the band aide and end all personal contact. If he is to leave, then I won't be involved with him to know what is going on. If we are meant to be, he will return when he is able, I just have to hurt now and heal from the wrong way that we have been involved.
Thu Nov 01, 2012
What state does he live in? What are his initials.
Mon May 28, 2012
Please keep me informed of your progress... I feel very simular to what you just posted here...
But been feeling a low... it gets hard.. ben sticking to my "me" feelings... but there are days when it hurts so much.
But I agree you need to love you first.
Love is love you can't help it... but if it ends up going weird.. and you will know...
Remembe yourself first above all.
and it will hurt.
but it needs to hurt if it is to heal.
Mon May 28, 2012
If you are a single woman involved with a married man you are asking for trouble and you deserve it!Contrary to belief all married men seem to have the same old line about leaving their wife!Why get yourself all caught up with a man that you will never have! Never!It's just too many men out there to be with who will treat you right and not be married to someone else! I have read alot of these comments and it seems like the same man is cheating on all of you ladies cb they are doing and saying the same thing and these weak women are falling for it!
Sat Jul 28, 2012
yes i do agree on that, with the girls who fell in love with the marred man, because i do believe in karma, there is a good karma and bad karma. please let him go for the reason he is still married and you will be a mistress forever
Mon Jul 30, 2012
im involved with a man whos wife lives in another state. they havent lived together for 3 or 4 yrs. she has lung cancer and has been in remission for 6 years.she lives with her mom and has her dr.s there. she hates it here and he cant move because of his job. he travels alot and i go with him most of the time. he is lonely and she has taken so much meds that she isnt all their. he let me hear her when he is on the phone with her.she has a mind of a 12 yr old because of the meds. he promised her when she was first sick he would never leave her. we are both in love with each other and dont know what to do! of course we all have our doughts. she started smoking again and heavy. he let me hear her mother talk to him. ive seem med bills and he keeps me posted on her health. i do hope she is ok. i dont wish her harm at all. and i understand his promise. when she was 15 her mother told him she was pregnant and she wasnt. so he married her. when he found out it was to late. he cared for her but he didnt love her the way he should have. but he didnt tell his family about what happened and they are from a real southern state. so marriage is gospel. he is three yrs older than her and i he now 49 yrs old. we both want to be happy. he has no children but i do and he loves them alot. he allways wanted a family. i dont know what to do. my family of course dosnt know about this. they think he is divorced. please tell me what to do. im so confussed.. please help me!!!!
Sun May 27, 2012
am dating a guy his not married but he's staying with the mother of his 4 years little girls, the problem is he keeps on promising me that he does love her anymore, he need me. i realy don't know if he mean it or not. so this days something he have some excuses when we suppose to meet he tells me he can't his baby is sick or if he suppose to see me after work he told me he can't he got a lift from a friend
Sun May 27, 2012
IT'S NOT WORTH IT! I've had a relationship with a married man for over a year. I admit it was a memorable experience, we had beautiful and exciting moments together. But you know what, I LOVE MYSELF and I can't allow him to treat me like an option because I believe that I deserve to be someone's priority! I told him that I can't continue being his mistress anymore and we should get back to being good friends..platon friends. Ladies, hear this... if a married man truly loves you, he will leave his wife for you. He will do anything to have you. He will spend the rest of his life with you. And he will respect you as a woman. Well now, this married man and I are still friends. If he loves me and wants me, then he has to prove it first. I DESERVE TO BE NUMBER ONE!
Wed May 30, 2012
totally agree with Pam. i am also in current situation and Long Distance Relationship. my bf is now tying for separation and not having love with his wife (he said his ex) as we both agree to have faith and loyal each other. so he did not have love with her about 8 months and last week he got drunk and she was forcing to have love. Now he said he felt guilty about it. they are together for 40 years but his wife was the one who started cheated on him with having affair with his best friends and she still cannot cum with my bf. within 40 years of marriage life she only cum once with my boyfriend. So why she blamed now to my boyfriend (her husband) about our affair?
Mon Jun 04, 2012
I third that Pam! Every woman deserves to be Number 1 in a mans life and you should NEVER settle for less!!!! Walk away and if he truly loves you he will find a way to be with you, only you!
Break the chains and put yourselves first for a change!
Mon Dec 03, 2012
If the guys has kids, I don't care how much he loves you . . . If he is a stand up decent guy and a good father . . . HE WILL NOT LEAVE for you, the marriage is secondary in most cases. In many instances its more about the kids than the wife, you can't fault them for that can you ? So what's a girl to do, make him choose ? It won't be you honey, I guarantee that.
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