How Can I Stop Cheating On My Wife With Another Woman - Marriage
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edward
Wed Nov 26, 2008
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If you are reading this post its probably because like me, you are also married and wanting to stop cheating on your wife. The first step is to accept your unfaithfulness which leads you to stop. To stop cheating is very easy if you want. But, alone cannot do it. I have tried to stop cheating on my wife on my own, but have failed. Now with the use of the internet, it's easy for married men to find women who are willing to have relationships or casual fun . Every time I cheated on my wife with another woman I would come home feeling guilty, then after a couple of weeks, the guilt would go away and I start wanting to do it again. so I continued this cycle. Over and over again. I truly wanted to stop. I didn't want to risk hurting my wife because she is a good woman and I feel like such a jerk, but my emotional desires would over come any weakness I had in me for having an affair with another woman.
So what is the secret to stop cheating on your wife? Well, there is no secret. You've known it all along. Its prayer. Adultery is a sin, and to start the healing you have to recognize that what you are doing is a sin. Kneel on your knees and ask the Lord to forgive you. You will feel much better. Ask Jesus to give you strength so when you have temptations again, you will be strong and to say no to adultery. You will be tempted to do it again, but just remember how guilty you feel and how much you love your wife. Its not fair for her or your family. Dont give in into temptation. Be strong and be faithful
please tell me your story, I would like to know if anyone else is going through is and how are you handling?
So what is the secret to stop cheating on your wife? Well, there is no secret. You've known it all along. Its prayer. Adultery is a sin, and to start the healing you have to recognize that what you are doing is a sin. Kneel on your knees and ask the Lord to forgive you. You will feel much better. Ask Jesus to give you strength so when you have temptations again, you will be strong and to say no to adultery. You will be tempted to do it again, but just remember how guilty you feel and how much you love your wife. Its not fair for her or your family. Dont give in into temptation. Be strong and be faithful
please tell me your story, I would like to know if anyone else is going through is and how are you handling?
JP
Wed Mar 31, 2010
nicki
Tue Aug 14, 2012
Well JP u talk a lot of BS... u wanna have a cake and eat it 2. ONLY animals fu... around that's animal instinct that's the different between animals and human beings!!!! Women and men are not made to have a lot of love partners we need more then love and men can stay faithful 2 one partner it's about choices retard and not biological. One Idiot once have said men need more women ...BS BS BS ...why do you think we get STD when we have love with many ppl? And u get STD not only through intercourse u get it through oral love 2 and jp you are retarded and i'm sorry for your Wife and she better should get tested for STD and you smart guy should go and educate yourself before you talk a lot of BS ....cheating is a choice and not biological....divorce your Wife if u don't wanna stay faithful to her and educate yourself about MARRIAGE AND COMMITMENT AND IF U LOVE YOUR WIFE YOU DON'T CHEAT ON HER AND RISK YOUR WIFE'S LIFE BY PASS ON STD THAT U MIGHT CAUGHT FROM SOME OTHER WOMEN. NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE JP IF MARRIAGE AND FAITHFULNESS ARE SO IMPOSSIBLE THEN WHY BE MARRIED IN THE FIRST PLACE??? JP really one thing u need to know everybody is looking for love trust and commitment and the thing is once they have it and found that one person they just STOP pursue they wives or husbands and think the grass is greener on the other side and while u reward the new piece of ass who never did a damn thing for you... you dishonor and disrespect your Wife and abuse her feelings and worth and self esteem now that is better right? remember your Wife sacrificed a lot to please you she sacrificed HER BODY to GIVE BIRTH TO YOUR CHILD she gave up HER CARRIER so you can have yours so PLEASE DON'T COME ON HERE AND TALK ABOUT CHEATING IS OK CAUSE ITS NORMAL !!!!!! You consider being on a animal standard instead of being on a human level
TN
Sun Sep 23, 2012
I agree with your premises JP. I know it is possible to love more than one person. Deeply.
I think that society & frameworks can sadly, constrain our living, that some people are okay with living that way and that is okay too. I think sometimes I live that way though and i'm not okay with it but, those conflict are hard to bend within, particularly if other people in your life don't think the same way.
I think the whole area is a minefield in that there is a lot to be said for maintaining your respect for the relationship and still letting your partner know that even if you are with other women loveually or otherwise you will always desire her and protect what you have.
Cheating is enacted for a variety of reasons, desire just one (which is something I think after recent reflection men generally, genuinely do struggle with). Which I think is something people tend to forget or oversimplify for the sake of ease or something. Things are rarely that simple. You might just *click* with someone else, they might be providing you with something you need (not necessarily love), or you might be looking for an out.
For myself I had told my husband he was free to sleep around so long as he was open with me, that our relationship and our communication remained as special. He never understood this notion.
In the end it was the deception and betrayal and the idea that he deliberately let me know that I was less desirable to him than the woma/en he chose, that hurts more that the act of love. It is the manureting all over the existing relationship and what we had together that upset me.
But I think he had an affair as an exit strategy - to end our relationship and to move on himself - not because he struggled overly with desire or being loveually faithful. He knew it would be a deal breaker if he did things that way and so he did it to hurt me.
Clear as reading in a hurricane? "Welcome to the inner workings of my mind."
I think that society & frameworks can sadly, constrain our living, that some people are okay with living that way and that is okay too. I think sometimes I live that way though and i'm not okay with it but, those conflict are hard to bend within, particularly if other people in your life don't think the same way.
I think the whole area is a minefield in that there is a lot to be said for maintaining your respect for the relationship and still letting your partner know that even if you are with other women loveually or otherwise you will always desire her and protect what you have.
Cheating is enacted for a variety of reasons, desire just one (which is something I think after recent reflection men generally, genuinely do struggle with). Which I think is something people tend to forget or oversimplify for the sake of ease or something. Things are rarely that simple. You might just *click* with someone else, they might be providing you with something you need (not necessarily love), or you might be looking for an out.
For myself I had told my husband he was free to sleep around so long as he was open with me, that our relationship and our communication remained as special. He never understood this notion.
In the end it was the deception and betrayal and the idea that he deliberately let me know that I was less desirable to him than the woma/en he chose, that hurts more that the act of love. It is the manureting all over the existing relationship and what we had together that upset me.
But I think he had an affair as an exit strategy - to end our relationship and to move on himself - not because he struggled overly with desire or being loveually faithful. He knew it would be a deal breaker if he did things that way and so he did it to hurt me.
Clear as reading in a hurricane? "Welcome to the inner workings of my mind."
AMMA
Wed Feb 23, 2011
My husband cheated on me. I gave him the option of an open relationship so it WOULDN'T be cheating, but he chose lies and to keep me manipulated and believing he was faithful so he could have his freedom and still possess me and keep me faithful. If you have so little respect for your wife to lie and cheat and potentially give her an incurable, potentially fatal disease, then damnit, be a man and leave! If you are so insecure that you have to have a woman around who loves you, but you are incapable of an open, loving, honest relationship, and want to have love without consequence to shore up your flagging manhood,then you are a just a spoiled, selfish child who doesn't deserve a good woman. I hope she finds out and dumps you! Period.
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Sammi
Thu Oct 13, 2016
Hey, I too have a cheating problem, I used to get on with tons of girls, going unnoticed, but recently I had a one nighter go south where the woman I got with fell pregnant and It might be my child. My ex girlfriend tried to forgive me but eventually things fell apart and since our breakup I've been trying my best to stay away from women and do all I can to win her back, I know it's hard for her but I don't think I'd ever cheat again cause this time, I lost a really special person in my life. I'd like to ask any guy who loves their partner to not repeat my mistakes. Thank you
anita
Sat Jan 16, 2010
I am a wife and i am 25 years old, married with my cheating husband for 4 years and we have a 3 yr old daughter. I caught him red handed cheating on me and forgave him and concidered going to marriage counceling. But i just caught him again. Some chick left him a nice voice mail and i am just devastated.
He swears he loves me, but how can you say you love someone and you cheat on them. I told him i didn't want to do the marriage counceling anymore and that its over but he was begging for another chance. I am a christian and gosh i am such a forgiving person and so naive sometimes too nice because people take advantage of my kindness...especially my husband! Neways i was wondering why my husband cant stop cheating on me and i am very happy to find this website, it definitely helped me a little. Please guys stop cheating on you partner. If you know you cant be faithful just leave them. It will hurt but not as much as being cheated on.
He swears he loves me, but how can you say you love someone and you cheat on them. I told him i didn't want to do the marriage counceling anymore and that its over but he was begging for another chance. I am a christian and gosh i am such a forgiving person and so naive sometimes too nice because people take advantage of my kindness...especially my husband! Neways i was wondering why my husband cant stop cheating on me and i am very happy to find this website, it definitely helped me a little. Please guys stop cheating on you partner. If you know you cant be faithful just leave them. It will hurt but not as much as being cheated on.
ron
Fri Apr 24, 2009
i know i love my woman and kids. they are my world but i got this problom talking to other girls but lately but i started back peddling. it hurts because i all ways end-up hurting my family the ones i love the most. please help me please
Second, cheating on your significant other isn't a sin. It's just biology. We are biologically driven to partner with many different people. The problem is that this conflicts with our moral/religious codes established and reinforced by society. Just because they are established beliefs does not make them correct, but going against them can cause emotional turmoil.
From personal experience- I love the hell out of my wife. I also love other women. If society allowed me to share this information with my wife, I would. But the reality is that if I did, it would cause all kinds of emotional and marital discord. (note, if you cheat on your spouse, have a big enough conscious not to mess with their head just because you feel guilty).
I want to stay with my wife. I want to have a relationship with her. I don't want to live with another woman. I just want to date other people. Just like every other married guy out there.
We expect to get married and cut ourselves off from the opposite gender for the rest of our lives, and this simply is not realistic. It is as absurd as choosing a best friend, and not letting your best friend ever have/make any other friends. It is simply jealous behavior. To the women who have cheating husbands- talk to them about it. Do you like being around them? Are they intimate with you? Do they share the deep things in their soul with you? Then stay with them. If they are an all around ass, get the hell out. The problem with sexual fidelity isn't the sexual part, it's the concealment from your partner that hurts the relationship. Treat each other with respect, and don't hold each other to impossible standards. Life is too short. And please, learn how to spell.