hmmm. well, if you are reading my post here, you're also wondering how can you tell if a guy is just using you instead of being honest with you. this is sometimes easy to find out. it all depends how sneaky the dude is. some boys are innocent or ignorant about trying to use a girl. but for the most part there is a way to actually find out if he is only using you. if you are interested i knowing my secret, then read more..
with some men, you can easily find if he is using. the easiest and faster way is to not give in to what he wants.. for example, lets say you are in a relationship and he touches your boobs, and then you say to him.. no, not right now.. if he gets mad, then you know for sure he is only using you. but if he is cool about it, then that tells you that he is not only interested in you for you body. another way i use when i want to find out if a guys is insterested in me is by telling him a problem i have. if he listens to me and gives me advise, then i that tells me that he has good feelings for me, but if instead he tryies to change the conversation or ignores me... BAMG!!!, you know that boy is a fool and just using you.
there was this man who used me this way. me and my friend we went everywhere together. we went clubbing. she was my best friend. then one day her boyfriend called me (it was very strange that he did that) i was like.. wow, what do you want dude,,,, so he was like.. can we go for a cup of coffee.. so me being stupid, i went. then my friend saw us there.. later i found out he was just using me to make my friend jelous.. but the sad part is that i lost a good friend. i never saw her again.. i miss her.. Her name was Maria. she was my best friend for years.. but because of that jerk. i lost her good friendship.. she used to teach me spanish and treat me to lunch at work. so becareful girls. because then you gonna ask how to tell if a guys using you
What Makes You Believe That He Is Using You?
Sun May 20, 2012
For 5 years I have waited for him to change. I moved away from him when he did not stop drinking, hunting on dating sites and compulsive lying to me. Last year I took him back and his 14 year old totaled his trailor and all of a sudden he is at my place telling me I am basically everything to him, not helping me with the bills unless I got mad, had dating site charges on his bank statement and said someone stole his identity, changing his pin # on his phone so I could not check the messages, and finally when insurance gave him money for a new place he left me and went and got his daugter. he left some things at my place and now he is calling and saying he loves me and wants me to come out to his new place. Is he just saying this to get his tv back? Help me
Fri May 18, 2012
Ok so i really like this guy named josh. He is so hot and i know he likes me but every time im with him he only talks about how much i turn him on and stuff...
And today we kissed... for me it was great and he said he liked it too but this has been happing for a long time now and he has't aked me to be his girlfriend. That gets me so pissed of but i keep kissing him because i like him sooo much.. What should i do. Is he using me?
Wed May 02, 2012
- Well i've This Guy For About Two Months, He Has Been Flirting With Other Girls So I Didnt Really Care. But Until One Time We Were Talking On Facebook, He Asked Me To Spend The Night At His House So I Did By The Time I Got There, We Were Already Making Out He Tried To Pull Up My Shirt But I Didnt Let Him. So Instead I Told Him Lets Watch A Movie. 40 Mins Into The Movie, He Was Moving His Hand Down To My Pravite Part.We Did ( Sadly) The Next I Saw Him He Didnt Talk To Me Like The Way He Used :( And On Every Weekend He Hits Me Up Saying "Are You Down ME && You (; " Is He Just Using Me For Sex?? And It Sucks Because i Already Fell For Him :(
Sat Sep 22, 2012
Sounds like he's not the guy you should be dealing with some time has passed so hopefully you noticed this by now and moved on to a better guy for you. If he was really into you for you love wouldn't be the only thing he text you for. He wouldn't only wanna see you when the sun goes down. Always tells a lot about a guy who doesn't respect your wishes once you tell them no the first time! Also if your meeting people for the first time and have never hungout with them before try going to the movies or a place where more people gather fill him out first and get to know him and try to figure out what it is that he wants. Lastly don't rush things.
Tue Apr 10, 2012
I have been with this guy for a month now,and he doesnt seem to talk to me.He said he would go on a double date with me on Friday,but then I saw the guy that my friend is dating whisper in my boyfriends ear something.Then my boyfriend nods his head.And laughs,could it be that he is going to dump me on our first real date?
Fri Feb 24, 2012
I've known this one guy for 3 years, we've already dated once, and it was for a year and a half. we broke up because we both felt we needed a break. but despite the break up, we've always been best friends. we went our seperate ways and dated other people and never talked about dating again until about a month and a half ago. we talk all the time, and are inseperable. but it still doesnt keep me from doubting the whole thing. when we talk, all he want to talk about is love. we talk about how much we like each other, and he always says how he always see's nobody else but me in his future but theres still a little doubt. what do you think?
Sun Feb 12, 2012
So I started talking to this guy 8 months ago and it started off that we were just interested in similar things like art and traveling. We went on our first date and the chemistry was amazing. He followed me around like a puppy dog, like I was the prettiest thing he'd ever seen. We went on a few dates and he seemed really nervous the first time and talked non stop about his life and growing up and stuff. Eventually he took me to see his hometown and it was cute and romantic. Finally he took me to go shooting and later we went back to his house and he kissed me and started trying to feel me up. Well, I had been saving my first kiss for a serious relationship, which he knew. Before the kiss he had talked about how much he wanted to date me exclusively and how beautiful I was and how good it felt being around me. Well after he kissed me I went home and cried. A week later I told him that I didn't want to see him anymore and he didn't text me for two days, which was weird because he would text me like 25 times a day-at least-for 4 months straight. So I called him two days later and he said it has weirded him out and that he had wanted to date me but didn't know anymore because he had a lot going on, like he might be having a kid and yadda yada. Anyways I told him that was okay and that we could just be friends until he figured it out and he said that he would like that. He told me that he had a lot to figure out but that he really wanted to date me one day when everything was figured out. Then he was silent for two months. Not completely but he'd text me like once every two weeks. Then he randomly started texting me again and being sweet, so I thought that he had figured out what he needed to. During that time I decided that I would wait because I thought that I might have started falling in love with him which was part of why I freaked out after he kissed me yet never asked to date me. So a few weeks into texting each other he says something like "I used to like you and I used to want to date you", so I found a new guy and moved on, but thought I could still be just friends with guy one. But I couldn't get the first guy out of my head so I went to his house to hang out with him and we ended up making out and having oral and anal love. I felt terrible afterwards and went home and cried. The next day I was horny and texting him about it and he said that it was a mistake and we shouldn't do it anymore. I agreed. Well, a month later we were texting and he asked if I wanted to come over and I did, because honestly I just wanted to be around someone that wasn't going to tell me all of their relationship drama. So we ended up doing it again and he kept trying to get me to have intercourse with him but I wouldn't and he kept trying to push it in a what not, but eventually he gave up and we did other things. We didn't talk much, all the chemistry was gone. I spent the night and tried to stay on my side of the bed but he kept trying to snuggle up to me. It was the worst night of my life. Now I don't know what to do. I know that it was all a big mistake but part of me just wants to be with guy one because I feel like I'm ruined for anyone else. I don't want to have to explain that manureto the next guy that comes along. It's been two days and guy one hasn't texted me and I don't really think he ever will, and I know for sure I'm not going to text him...I'm just confused. He kept asking me if I was falling in love with him and I thought I was but wouldn't tell him because I thought it would freak him out, but after the last time I'm just grossed out with him. When we were in the middle of it he asked if I wanted his guy roomate to come in too and be a part of it and that made me mad. As if I would let a guy touch me who I wasn't in love with. Now I'm confused and scared and wish this whole thing would just go away.
Wed Jan 25, 2012
me and this guy have been enemys and just recently we are friends everydy after school he comes over and we just make out we dont go farther i always ask why we dont date and he says ohh i wanna be single for a while he listens to me like if i have probs says he loves me 70 percent but i told him today a guy punched me he said who i said a this one guy and he said ok like he didnt even care but idkk i know that its probably a game to him like hes usin me but i dont wanna give him up ive liked him foreverrrr and since its happening i dont know if id be able to get over him that fast at all.....what to do!!??
im only 13 hes 14 btw
Thu Jan 12, 2012
my boyfriend of a year and eight months always gets mad when i tell him how a girl is, like if shes gonna break us up or i just bad all around. i try to tell him my honest opinion and he just freaks out. he tells me he hates my friends, i dont understand why because they never talk to him..i dont understand what is up with him. we've broken up before cause of this girl trying to get in the middle. and i always say something but im always the wrong one. i get told shes just trying to help?
Sun Jan 08, 2012
look, all I can say, after a couple years of dating is that one thing is certain: no guy is a saint. I once really liked this guy, captain of our school's football team, and we went out for around four months. And well when i really thought we were getting ready to well, u know.. i found out he had cheated on me, several times. and as well every young teenager would do, i promised myself to never love again, but soon enough, there i was again, hanging by a thread in the arms of another idiot. but i managed to have some really great relationships too. Here's the trick, don't be naive. I know how we feel when it's with us "nobody understands what we have", believe me, I've been there. But takes the hints you know. For example in your case, ur guy is texting you dirty messages, not saying that is bad, you both were probably both having some good laughs at it, but just be careful. guys who are this open with rather more loveual stuff, should always be kept on alert. But hey, who knows, maybe he really liked you. I dont really like to say this often, but it comes a time where we actually are "the one" to someone, you're the one who changed that guy to someone other girls actually respect. But anyways, i just want to get to the important part, dont rush into anything. There are great chances, as always, the he is just using you, and he will, believe me, do everything he can to try and convince you. So just be careful and wait, because i know what its like to it to young, with the wrong one.. and its something you will regret for the rest of your life. It might seem fun and harmless, and it might even be at the time, but afterwards, that feeling of emptiness and regret turns everything else not worth it. and guys like him, that are know to be players, can really be the type of guys that just use you, that find some way to leave quickly and are in no time with another. and that SUCKS. I watched my guy leave me to go and fall in love with one of my bestfriends.and she didnt even want him, yet he chased after her like a lost puppy.It broke my heart, and the pain i felt for so many months, turn everything else not worth it. Okay this is getting seriously depressing, and I wasnt trying to scare you or anything, just u know, warn. but as every teenager, we will all make silly mistakes,and you'll learn from them, become stronger and well after a few heartbreaks you'll be able to identify the good ones from the jerks in a blink of an eye. So I'd say you should definitely go out with this guy, don't go to far, but have fun. Teenagehood is all about having fun, having flings and just being a kid while we still can. So enjoy it, and just make sure to be careful because you want to enjoy this innocence as long as you can, because you will miss it if you end it too soon. I'm sure you'll eventually meet a guy that is worth it and that u truly feel comfortable around. But just wait you know, meet him talk to him. I went out with a guy that probably spent around 7 months being a total sweetheart to me, we'd text all the time, and talk about everything. that after he finally got what he wanted, he started to avoid me, only call me when he wanted something, but otherwise he just wouldn't call. but when we are so lovey dovy for someone we dont even notice these things.
So hey, have fun, enjoy it all, be careful, but enjoy. life is all about mistakes, learning, improving and making the best out of what we have. I sure made many mistakes, but i learned, and now i finally fond a guy who truly cares about me and appreciates me for me.
I hope this helped!
Tue Dec 06, 2011
I love this! it really helps me understand my problem..
there is this guy at school named anthony and.. he is captin of the basketball team and all my friends tell me he is a player and i asked him about it.. and he says no and plus he was texting me last night about some naughty stuff and my parents took my phone away and read all the texts .. and now he is goin to ask me out tomorrow during half time in front of everyone.. and i really like him and idk if i should say yes.. or not please! help!!!! :(
Sun Nov 27, 2011
I NEED HELP TOO!!! :(
Idk if i'm being used idk what to do!!!! :(
but i don't feel like typing it all out i'm sorry lol but i'm dating this dude and there's been like 5 friends that tell me he is a player and that he's used girls for love before, but HE tells me that he's changed, YET, he still talks about how he wants to have love with me! But i keep telling him i DONT want love, i really HONESTLY dont! WHAT DO I DO AHHH!!!
Tue Nov 22, 2011
So I just met this guy Skyler two months ago, and I liked him as soon as i met him, i was in a musical with him and backstage i was behind the curtains waiting for the next song to come so i could do my solo, and he comes up and kisses me... The next day he did it again... then the next day asked me out... i said yeah against my better judgement... the next day at lunch he comes up to me and tries making out with me in front of the other highschoolers... i pushed him away, and he got mad and walked away but thought an hour later during chemistry to come up and try again... this time i wasn't able to push away... so i was stuck... my friends tell he is being how a good boyfriend should be... but i don't think he is... what should i do!?
Sun Nov 13, 2011
my heart was broken by a player named Dayton C. and Now i hace 3 guys i like and they all r asking me what would u say if i asked u out? and like seriously, I AM SO CONFUSED!!!?!?!??!?!?!??! I dont know what to do. Please help. I can't Close my heart. Thanks
Wed Nov 09, 2011
i believe that he dont call me or send no money for me because i miss him alot and then he cut me short on the conversation everyday he telak about love on his mind and i couldnt see it on my own eyes taht he just using me for love but all i ever wanted is the truth
Thu Oct 20, 2011
So I used to talk to this guy named Spencer and it didn't really work out, but after a couple months of not being together we started talking again.. we haven't been talking for long and he's already asking for pictures, when he got mad cause I wouldn't send him raws I told him that he was just using me and he just replied with "k".. I don't know if that is something that I should actually be worried about or if its normal for a guy to get mad if you dont send him raws.?