How To Get Win Trust Back From A Person Woman Man Wife Husband Cheated
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At some point or another, you might find yourself that a person in your life doesn't trust you anymore because you betrayed their trust by lying or cheating. I've been in that situation where I've betrayed my best friend and she never trusted me anymore. It is an awful feeling when someone doesn't trust you anymore. I feel worthless. But at the same time i feel guilty for doing what I did. So now that you've commited this act (such adultary, cheating or lying) how do get that person's trush back?
The answer is not an easy one. First put yourself in their shoes or their situation, how would you feel if they did what you did to them, back to you. I am sure you wouldn't like it either. So it will take time to earn their trust back.
There are two kinds of people in this world:
1. There are poeple who give you trust at the beginning until you break that trust, and they take it away.
2. There are another people whom you HAVE to show them they can trust you first, before they give you trust.
I am like the number one example above. I usually give people the benefit of the doubt and give my trust to them until they break it. It works for me. But I know of some friends who they will not trust you until you have earned their trust. Usually these people are like that because at some point in their lives, they were dissapointed by someone, or somebody betrayed their trust to they've learned to shut the door on anyone when it comes to trust. Understably, it sucks when someone breaks your trust.
So, if you just broke someone's trust, then you are now dealing with a person like that number 2 example and now you have to work to get their trust back.
These are some tips or suggestions I can give you if you find yourself in the same sitation:
1. Give the person some time to heal their wound. They are feeling hurt right now, and the last person they want to talk to right now is YOU. you must be patient. Give it about two weeks. This will ensure that the person who you hurted, has time to reflect and think of what happened to them.
2. After they've had time to heal. Make an attempt to find out how they are doing. Usually they will tell you they want nothing to do with you, If so, than give it another week, but if you are successful in getting a conversation from them, they the first thing to do is to Apologize. Don't over aplogize. The more times you say you are sorry, the less chances you have that they will believe you, and this will make it worst because they don't trust you anyway. So you have to show you are truely sorry. Saying sorry its a BIG step in gaining someone's trust. But THE most important thing about saying you are sorry is to show that you are sorry. You are going to have to do some serious "kissing ass" to do. If you are not goog at kissing ass, you better start learning. Kissing ass is just a way to make the person feel important, specially women, they love attention, the more attention you give, the better chances you have into reconsiliation. The worst mistake you can make in the making-up process, is to make up with someone just to make yourself feel better. If you want to gain someone's trust, you must do it for them, and not for yourself.
3. Before Honor comes Humility (Proverbs 18:12) - This proverb is so true. I've met so many people that they want your trust without respect. If you geniunly want to have someone's trust or respect, you must humble you yourself. Pride will get you nowhere, specially with someone whom you've hurt.
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:: 1 :: #143 - Reply By mister_MR2 On Mon Dec 04, 2006 11:26 am
I want back my husband and husband doesn't love me, are these the words that keep on popping out in your mind? Surely there must be some misunderstanding that causes your husband to leave you. You was shocked and devastated when he left you. You are now badly want your husband back and be with him again, am I right? You hope for reconciliation and forgiveness from your husband. There are only two reason why a loving husband would leave his wife-the first reason is in the relationship with his wife. If you as a wife do not perform the duty as a wife such as ignoring his love and care by putting more concentration on your children and career or whatever reasons rather than spend more time with him, he would felt neglected and the love for you will turned sour. Of course this is not an overnight thing but somehow gradually impacted his life to reconsider the relationship and caused your husband wants divorce.
Men though outside is strong but inside they are just like you. They have emotion, they have feeling, they need love and in other words they are as fragile as you too. Let me ask you a question, what if this whole situation happens to you? I guessed you would want to end the relationship as fast as he could. There was a saying "Successful Relationship Require Us To Fall In Love Many Times With The Same Person". Can you do that? The second reasons that made him wants to leave you and made you think i want back my husband is that he already falls for another women! The temptation of the world is so great that it is hard for him to resist. He will compare you to the girl he met, may be she has a beautiful body, young, good in body language, very attractive and sexy, less pressure in relationship, no nagging and so forth. Men are easily tempted by visual and easily aroused by what they see. Just look at the good shape figures of girls in magazines, newspaper and now the worst-internet! ALL of these factors somehow will slowly poisoned your husband mind if he is not conscious enough. So what are you going to do about it in order to win your husband back? Here is one of the way that can be helpful to you.
If he comes over to visit, don't stick to your husband for too long: Practice detachment. Never show your desperation and craving no matter how bad you want your husband back. If you want to get your husband back then do not be depressed and needy, complain, cry and whine. I don't care if your heart is breaking, don't let him see what is inside you anymore. Make sure you don’t make it seem like you want him back badly-just be natural. Compliment him, talk to him, treasure the little moment you have together and make it count, then gently kiss him goodbye. No accusations, no making him feel guilty, and no pathetic, or sad behavior. The more fun you are to be with, and a pleasure to talk to, the less time he'll want to spend with the other woman. It may take some time, but be persistent! Just indirectly let him know that you do not need to depend on another person to experience happiness and peace. If you learn to cultivate this pattern, you will realize that your husband will be the one who is scared of losing you! Use this secret and I wish that you would not say it anymore I want back my husband.
:: 2 :: #218 - Reply By tila On Tue Feb 06, 2007 5:52 pm
i want to get back with my husband back, but he doesnt want to come back to my anymore, what can i do to get my husband back from cheating with another woman.
:: 3 :: #220 - Reply By tomi On Tue Feb 06, 2007 6:36 pm
Can you guide me on Getting back a neglected lover? any advice you can give me would be great. i am feeling depressed and in love.
:: 4 :: #222 - Reply By carlitass On Tue Feb 06, 2007 6:42 pm
would you take back a woman who cheated on you?
:: 5 :: #285 - Reply By kissy On Fri Feb 09, 2007 6:27 am
how to get your mom to trust you again?
:: 6 :: #348 - Reply By luzie On Mon Feb 12, 2007 10:15 pm
what happens if husband doesnt trust wife anymore?
:: 7 :: #445 - Reply By fabio On Sun Feb 18, 2007 10:45 pm
you women are lucky you don't have the fortune of this chinese lady. Apperantly this guy found his wife together with his boss and he kidnapped her. there was like a two hour stand off until the police was able to rescue the woman from harms way. so stop cheating on each other, what makes you think that if he or she cheated on you once, he or she will not do it again.
:: 8 :: #16586 - Reply By faron hancock On Sun Aug 19, 2007 9:44 pm
hi there, my name is faron and i have made a huge mistake. the one woman that i have ever loved just left me because i cheated on her.. we have been together for 3 years and now i put that to a stop... i have been trying every thing to get her to take me back...(im not loosing her).... but my only problem is that she left town for a few days... i would love it if you got back to me as soon as possable... i cant sleep thinking that she dosnt care any more... thank you for your time.
:: 9 :: #18463 - Reply By Rachel On Sun Sep 02, 2007 11:48 am
i dont really no how to explain my situation, my girl freind doesnt trust me anymore.. but she wont come back to me as she doesnt no how she feels anymore because of what iv done. i had been texting a friend who was an ex many years ago. but as iv always been i can some times say things i dont realy meen be flurtatious.. i had sent things like she is not my gf that we were spliting up things of that nature. but that was how i thought i felt at the time as we were going through a ruf patch, and i no its not nice or fare. but i had lost my best freind which had a horible death, you could realy say i was rebelious towards everyone and everything i didnt no how to deal with it. i didnt no how to deal with the situation of loosing my friend and went about it the totally wrong way. i hurt the ones who were closest to me, purposley pushing them away but now that iv done it iv relised what a horible mistake that i have made. how do i win her back? i no she loves me i just have to show her again but i need her to trust me so shel open up. but i dont no how to? what can i do to rectafie this horible mistake?
:: 10 :: #36930 - Reply By A.P On Fri Jan 18, 2008 3:29 am
i have a question> what is the best way let a cheater know how much they've hurt you and has ruined your heart? i believe this person may have a little guilt but doesn't really understand the full impact of the choice they've made. i understand that they may have wanted to break up and end the relationship but to end it by cheater is a cowards way out and to my understanding is a way to give up your dignity. and you can only give that away (dignity), no one can take it from you. this person has to now lie to their friends, family and coworkers, they don't really know the full story. and believe we just broke up from maybe a fight or something. but because we had a very long relation spanding more than a decade together they must get a sense of somethings wrong or something really serious happened. i don't want to seek revenge because revenge is for people who can't control their emotions but i would like to seek anyones advise on how to get the karmic point across. "for what you may ask?" because like jail it's rehabilitation! this person cheater on me with a student at their school they work at which is fraternization and they think it was justifiable because our relation was going to end! to the best of my knowledge we hadden broken up just yet and they lied to me the night they cheated. why would they need to lie if we were already broken up? so, books won't work and getting them fired is a form of revenge, either i let it go and allow karma to teach them a lesson or someone has a similiar situation and would like to elaborate. please do!
thanks.
a.p
:: 11 :: #45269 - Reply By Rolanda On Thu Mar 13, 2008 9:23 am
i am a woman who for 13yrs has been completely faithful to the same man. we have been married for 9yrs and my husband has been unfaithful numerous times, even to the point where he has filed divorce and had a affair that lasted over a years time. i forgave him, and tried hard to make the marriage work, even after numerous affairs and heartache. we also have somewhat of a volitile relationship, due to his irrational behavior at times. we have two children ages 15 and 6 (boy6, girl 15) they have seen and heard allot of things that they shouldn't have. i feel to blame as a mom. my husband left me again, back in november and i found out, he was again persuing a relationship. i spoke with the young lady, and think this was the cause of the lost friendship between them. he has also been dating another woman in our separation. i have now met someone who is charming, intelligent and very attentive. listens and supports me in everything, but i still love my husband. we have children. we have both filed for divorce, but my money is low, finances high and home in jeopardy. my husband wants me back. he has been crying and pleading for reconciliation, but i have not been giving in to his pleadings. i don't trust him. he has enrolled in counseling and anger management, and swears he wants to change and have a healthy relationship with me. he says i can stay in the home, and he will pay the note, if i committ to making the marriage work. if not...me and the kids will have to move, which will put me in a financial and crucial bind. he has left me also with the car that has a payment and cancelled my insurance. what do i do????? do i stay and trust that things will change, or go and struggle with the kids, lose my a-1 credit status, car and home?
:: 12 :: #45328 - Reply By Jeff On Thu Mar 13, 2008 4:28 pm
i need advice, i lied to my partner of 5 months, i hurt her and seriously damaged our relationship, i havent slept with anyone else...i lied about money and my ability to provide. i have fessed up since then but its not the same she says its up to me to make it right,she used to talk about the future but now she says " we will have to see how we go" i just want her back and her to believe in me again,what can i do??
i could use some help,
many thanks
jeff 43yrs uk
:: 13 :: #45407 - Reply By rolanda On Fri Mar 14, 2008 11:12 am
i am a woman who for 13yrs has been completely faithful to the same man. we have been married for 9yrs and my husband has been unfaithful numerous times, even to the point where he has filed divorce and had a affair that lasted over a years time. i forgave him, and tried hard to make the marriage work, even after numerous affairs and heartache. we also have somewhat of a volitile relationship, due to his irrational behavior at times. we have two children ages 15 and 6 (boy6, girl 15) they have seen and heard allot of things that they shouldn't have. i feel to blame as a mom. my husband left me again, back in november and i found out, he was again persuing a relationship. i spoke with the young lady, and think this was the cause of the lost friendship between them. he has also been dating another woman in our separation. i have now met someone who is charming, intelligent and very attentive. listens and supports me in everything, but i still love my husband. we have children. we have both filed for divorce, but my money is low, finances high and home in jeopardy. my husband wants me back. he has been crying and pleading for reconciliation, but i have not been giving in to his pleadings. i don't trust him. he has enrolled in counseling and anger management, and swears he wants to change and have a healthy relationship with me. he says i can stay in the home, and he will pay the note, if i committ to making the marriage work. if not...me and the kids will have to move, which will put me in a financial and crucial bind. he has left me also with the car that has a payment and cancelled my insurance. what do i do????? do i stay and trust that things will change, or go and struggle with the kids, lose my a-1 credit status, car and home?
:: 14 :: #46160 - Reply By rolanda On Wed Mar 19, 2008 10:30 am
:: 13 :: #45407 - reply by rolanda on fri mar 14, 2008 11:12 am
i am a woman who for 13yrs has been completely faithful to the same man. we have been married for 9yrs and my husband has been unfaithful numerous times, even to the point where he has filed divorce and had a affair that lasted over a years time. i forgave him, and tried hard to make the marriage work, even after numerous affairs and heartache. we also have somewhat of a volitile relationship, due to his irrational behavior at times. we have two children ages 15 and 6 (boy6, girl 15) they have seen and heard allot of things that they shouldn't have. i feel to blame as a mom. my husband left me again, back in november and i found out, he was again persuing a relationship. i spoke with the young lady, and think this was the cause of the lost friendship between them. he has also been dating another woman in our separation. i have now met someone who is charming, intelligent and very attentive. listens and supports me in everything, but i still love my husband. we have children. we have both filed for divorce, but my money is low, finances high and home in jeopardy. my husband wants me back. he has been crying and pleading for reconciliation, but i have not been giving in to his pleadings. i don't trust him. he has enrolled in counseling and anger management, and swears he wants to change and have a healthy relationship with me. he says i can stay in the home, and he will pay the note, if i committ to making the marriage work. if not...me and the kids will have to move, which will put me in a financial and crucial bind. he has left me also with the car that has a payment and cancelled my insurance. what do i do????? do i stay and trust that things will change, or go and struggle with the kids, lose my a-1 credit status, car and home?
:: 15 :: #48346 - Reply By tc On Wed Apr 02, 2008 5:26 pm
i believe in honouring marriage vows through and through. if you have the faith to believe in miracles -- then that's what you can expect! i've seen many disasterous marriages turned around and become very strong unions. be faithful to your vows and stand by your man to get him (and you) the help you need...and your situation will stand a chance. the key point to remember in working to build a strong marriage and family, is that you must all be comitted to change. each being responsible for changing oneself for the better...continually. find support groups, people or organisations that can help you do this and seek individual counselling before embarking upon couple counselling. also, surround yourselves with god-centred people who will build you up, support and encourage you all. trust in the lord with all your mind and heart, and he will give you the desires of your heart. don't give up! your husband needs your support and belief in him more than you think! god bless you and your family. tc -- new zealand
:: 16 :: #49141 - Reply By Tyler On Tue Apr 08, 2008 8:03 am
i need some advice. my girlfriend of 2 years just broke up with me about a month ago. i lied to her so many times and she always broke up with me for it, but she would always take me back. the last time she took me back she said it was the last time but i didnt take her seriously because she always took me back and now she wont take me back and i love her mare than anything. i need to know how i can gain her trust back so that she will take me back one last time.
:: 17 :: #52590 - Reply By giscard On Sat May 03, 2008 4:24 pm
i've been cheating on my girl friend since we first start going out now its been 5 years. we have a dother and shes pregnant to a second one and i was still sheating till i got cut for the 10th time she left me and swear that she will nerver give another chance again ireally love her but i just dont know why i cheate so much on her i want her back in my life i want my family again im so depressed i think of her everyday i cant eat sleap or even work i dont know what else to do i need so kinda hope...
:: 18 :: #58395 - Reply By someone On Thu Jun 19, 2008 8:13 am
my boyfriends was going to cheat on me with my cousin. so i went off to another guy and told him i liked him and everything. then 2 days later after i broke up with my boyfriend, i found out i still liked him and we told each other we still loved each other but the only thing keeping us apart is the trust he lost with me and the other guy i like. help!
